Should I walk away..

[Sad1974]

In a nutshell I've been seeing a man for a year who I've known for a few years..When we first got together last year he made it clear he didn't want a relationship as his last relationship had ended badly and he lost his home etc..over time we've acted like a couple when we are together (it's a long distance thing) he holds my hand etc and always calls every day.
I've met and socialised with all his family and even met his long time female best friend who even said she knew I meant a lot to him and she'd love to see us together properly
He constantly tells me he cares and that he wished he could offer more yet when I go home..he seems to step back and phone conversations are just regular chat..he doesn't imply that he misses me yet when I go there he tells me that he has to put me to the back if his mind a lot because a relationship isn't what he wants right now but that he he always misses me and wishes I was there.
Recently he met a woman locally who he has started meeting most elves in the pub.. going out and about with and chatting to late at night..she has ME and doesn't work so is frequently up in the early hours. Quite often he'll hang up to me saying he's going to sleep but I'll see in the morning he was online on what's app for a good couple of hours afterwards.He recently added her on fb and now she literally comments on everything he puts in such a way as to imply that they are close. He's told me he's confided in her about his breakdown and that she's been supportive and that he doesn't find her attractive but is glad to finally have a friend locally..however..he admitted he hadn't mentioned me to her..
We had a big row about it the other night and he told me that I'm being unreasonable and that he's lonely and needs friends but it feels like ages stepping into my shoes and also I think she is reading a lot into the friendship too.
This weekend he unexpectedly told me that he loved me so much.which shook me..as he's never said that before but he reiterated that he can't be in a relationship as he needs to concentrate on getting himself sorted etc but that I have no idea how much so mean to him..
Then the next day he went straight to the pub to spend the evening with her..Im at the stage where I'm really wondering if I should just walk away..

Sorry I’m late coming back to this thread . I’ve found it v difficult to deal with . All the bullshit he fed me about not being ready for a proper relationship but I meant so much to him etc . I re read the messages his GF sent and in there he was telling her he was looking for a future and there was lots of sexy talk . In one message he actually says to her .. remember to bring .. insert winky face and she says he he you bad boy .. in other messages he asking to meet up and in one he says also I really need to see you again .. I just feel physically sick and an utter fool and I hate him so much . He was always saying I’m not an arsehole etc etc but he’s proved himself to be the biggest arsehole going .. I just don’t think I’ll ever trust anyone again

What an absolute git. Well done for getting out. Are you moving to near your dad? I think a fresh start is definitely called for. One day you will trust someone again - meanwhile your finely-tuned twat radar will stand you in good stead. Wishing you the best of luck

Sorry you got duped by this arsehole, Sad. But give yourself a bit of time and you will feel better - be thankful you got away! Time to concentrate on yourself. You mentioned wanting to move closer to you Dad - are you any further along with plans? I had to restart my life have a disastrous relationship too. You can do it. Just one step at a time.

he said he wouldn't touch her with a barge pole as she was too big

Ugh, men who try to ingratiate themselves by slagging off another woman make my vagina drier than the desert.

Well done for sacking him off OP.

If it were me, I'd delete (and empty the trash) the copies of messages the other woman sent you. At this point it sounds a bit like you're rubbing salt into your wounds and it's just going to hurt you more.

You already know what he's done, there's no need to keep torturing yourself.

Thanks everyone I’ve deleted the messages now and yes I’m taking steps to re locate . I suspect there have been other women too . I’m gobsmacked at how he could sit there and look me in the eye and act horrified when I asked him in the past if there was anyone else and in fact got angry with me .. on several occasions the bed was still bloody warm from either me or her leaving it . He makes me sick

What a charmer!

He's just not that into you, I'm sorry to say. If he were, he'd be in a proper relationship with you rather than regularly reminding you that you're not. I'd walk away before you get really hurt.

He's the idiot, not you.

I agree what a vile idiot. You can now start afresh without him wasting your time. keep busy then he wont take up your head space.