I have dipped my self into the world of online dating again, gluten for punishment. Anyway often on profiles I would see a statement I didn't like much from women with children. Normally 'my kids have got a dad, they don't need another'. I used to find this vulgar, bitter and a turn off.
But reasently I have come across women who don't have kids or want kids, which is fine. But they don't want to be with a man who is the primary carer for his kids as they don't want to play mummy. Sometimes in their profile or their response even though I have not mentioned the kids or alluded to that in the first place. It's fine not to want anything to do with kids but I hate the premise that anyone would think I was looking for a mummy for them. They have a mum in their life. I'm looking for someone for me to share good times with not a mother figure.
So now I see the reason for that comment. Yes probably a bit bitter but forged out of experiance of blokes being suspious of their motive being for a new daddy. Well I get it now and it's a horrible feeling that transcends the genders. Some women think like that too. So it also got me wondering if there is a more elegant way of saying I have kids but not looking for another parent figure?