Do I trust my gut?

[MozzchopsThirty]

Met a guy a few months ago and had 3 dates.
Final date I went to his house and literally ran out and down the steeet, just felt this overwhelming urge to leave.

Anyway we recently hooked up again as he came across as 'a nice guy'

Even though he's done nothing terribly wrong there are a few things that have made me and I just don't really feel any attachment to him at all

He commented on me sleeping in a bed with ds2 and said I needed 'to stop that before it becomes a problem'
He commented on a body part of mine that I'm self conscious about, I'd told him previously then after sex he said 'I can see what you mean about x'
He says things like 'we could be really special together' which makes me feel a little nauseous and he will say 'I'm a good kisser and so are you so together we're perfect'
He talks a lot about money & his business
He says he's a genuinely nice guy and wants someone to adore and says that could be me

Also his childcare arrangements totally don't fit with mine or what I want

I feel bad that I'm going to end it again but there's something not right and I can't put my finger on it

Definitely trust your gut! If you don't feel right about it you don't have to justify yourself to anyone including him.
Oddly every man who has told me he's a nice guy has turned out not to be particularly nice. The guy who told me from the beginning he's not perfect is the one I ended up with.

If it's not right it's not right. He sounds like an arsehole too. You were right to run the last time. Block and delete.

Trust your instincts and end it

I wouldn't. There's a reason you stopped seeing him. Wanting to run away from him is a big clue!

So many red flags. .
Your parenting choices are yours alone.
If anyone had criticised my body after sex I would have dumped him right then!!

He says he's a genuinely nice guy

I have never met a genuinely nice guy who ever had to mention that he was a genuinely nice guy. Nice guys don't tend to tell people this!

PLEASE trust your instincts. They are telling you to run like hell for a reason. Why on earth would you ignore them?!

But I've dated a string of complete twats

I though he maybe different as he's 'nice'
The sex thing was quite upsetting and I've never had anyone mention it in that way and on a first time

I also don't enjoy kissing him

Always trust your gut feeling! I've tried to ignore mine in the past but, it's always proven right in the end. The comment about your body part alone should be enough to bin him. He knew you had an issue about it, he shouldn't have even mentioned it - what a twat!

I feel the same about him just from reading your posts. Stop ignoring yourself!!

Soubds like an ass. The fact you don't want to kiss him speaks volumes, listen to what your gut is telling you.

He's not nice though is he? Just because he says he's nice doesn't make it true. Commenting on your body after sex is the opposite of nice.

He wants someone to adore and that COULD be you? Well whoop de fucking doo, does he want a medal? He sounds cringe as hell, trust your gut.

Go with your gut and don't waste any more time on him. Sounds like a gobshite and if you don't like kissing him then that's a problem. I always felt that kissing a guy was important in terms of if I liked them or not.

You aren't feeling it, so why flog a dead horse?

Commenting on your body negatively, after sex, is very not 'nice'.

Yes I think kissing is important as it's the one thing that starts everything else

I just can't trust my own judgement as I continue to have hideous toxic relationships

And I think maybe I just tried to think he may be different

You are about to have another hideous relationship because you don't trust your own judgement.

Usually the warning signs are all there. We just don't take them seriously enough.

He sounds awful!

And yes to nice guys not needing to say it!

Do I message him or just ghost him?

Message him. No need to be cowardly. Just a brief and clear message then don't engage further. Block him after if you feel you might get drawn in.

Message with a very brief, clear statement. Don't grovel or apologize, just say this relationship isn't working for you and you will not be communicating any further. Then either ignore or block, your choice, but DO NOT respond to any of his messages, no matter what he says.

Should I say why?

'Hi bloke. I'm sorry to let you know this by text but I wanted to be honest with you. I don't think this has the potential to be the kind of relationship I'm looking for. You're a great guy and I hope you meet someone just right for you. All the best, Mozz'

I'd wait and if I heard anything from him, I'd turn him down and say 'this isn't working for me so I won't be meeting with you again. Mozz'.