The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Not that restrained really as I took the car so no choice there! and avoided white wine (my absolute weakness).

There is nothing in this house that I would drink (apart from Gin). I'm going with avoidance tactics!

Demented sounds exciting! Do like the Ginger one!

Steeple yey - well done you!

Only one way to find out ma. What a way to go though! I need to know if he smells nice . I bet he does.

I can't do the One Drink thing AT ALL. I'd still be there shouting 'Fuck the car, I'm getting a taxi. Work tomorrow? You're all a bunch of boring bastards' or some such guff.

Heman I'm sure if it had been white wine I would have been craving more! It was less then half a mile from home so I was definitely using the car for "protection" from myself!

I will have a sniff for you heman.

Day 8 here and am really pleased with myself!

Had a big work do during the week which was fine without booze. Had a total laugh. And had a pal round last night and stayed on the cordial all night.

Watching Thor 2 now with a Horlicks. Mmm Chris Hemsworth ☺

Much love to all the babes and good luck with the struggles x

Just popping in, have had a dodgy stomach all weekend and am between bed and bathroom!

Oh ma lucky duck! I want to know if he's tall as well as fragrant.

I will be back to say hello to new posters and catch up soon.

ma
Go get him girl! Have fun.

MsHooliesCardigan
How are you doing my lovely?

OyyVeyy
This morning dawned with a hangover from a bottle of wine last night, only cured by gin.
Day 1 starts again tomorrow.

I hope your dicky tum goes away soon Lux.

I think he's tall, muscly (but not too much) and smells delicious. He has to be or there is something wrong with the universe.

ma you should out yourself.... You need a name change to the real you.... dementedmarkle

And to the ..'tall, slightly muscly, smells good' .... I add.... that he really, properly looks in your eyes when he shakes your hand.

PS. Don't curtsey too low - you may get distracted from your mission.

And dear other babes, my apologies, and encouragement to everyone who is on this journey. Xx

Eek, nobody said anything about curtseying! I'm just concentrating on getting o to the stage without faceplanting as I trip up the steps in front of hundreds of people. And then not dropping the damn glass award. And then getting down the steps on the other side.....oh God, its a disaster waiting to happen.

Oof venus .

You'll be FINE ma. It all sounds very glamorous and wonderful. Are you wearing something fabulous? And gorgeous shoes? Can you tell that this is a 'Same Shit, Different Day' sort of week for me?! .

Hope you have a great day Demented

Well I suppose technically it's back to Day 1 for me but I feel OK about it.

DementedMa how exciting! looking forward to hearing how it went
MissHoolie hope you are ok. Keep posting. Seems like you have some good insight about your alcohol and food issues. Really difficult when you get rid of one problem just to move it elsewhere. I guess you need to keep working on finding the original cause and dealing with that.

For me, well I only managed 3 AF days last week. I also broke my rule about not drinking at home, which is not great. I bought some wine to share with a friend, but that didn't happen, and in the end drank it on my own. If I have wine in the house I drink it. I also bought a bottle of cava which is untouched in the cupboard. I wouldn't normally drink that on my own so its easier to resist. Keeping it there will be a test. However my total consumption was about 21 units over the week. Which is way down on the bottle of wine a night that I had been drinking before. My philosophy on this is that I am in it for the long term, so I will just keep persevering one day at a time. Even if I cocked up y'day (which I did) today is a new day and I will try again. I also need to watch out for triggers. I use drink for emotional comfort. I'm a bit scared of being let down by someone, and if that does happen I know I'll want to reach for the bottle. So I need a plan B.

This week I have an evening out with a friend on Wednesday and a friend's 40th on Saturday. So those will be my drinking days, and the aim is not to drink on the other days.
Waffling on again I know. But when I post this message it will be out there to remind me of my resolution!

I'm really not doing very well. I just spoke to the duty doctor at my parents' surgery about trying to get a prescription and she was an absolute cow to me and I came off the phone in tears. My DM said that this doctor is renowned for absolutely being vile and had her elderly neighbour who is as tough as old boots in tears.
I feel so utterly trapped. I feel like I need a proper detox but it seems impossible to get one here without jumps through millions of hoops which I just can't face doing.
But without it, I don't think I'm well enough to go home. If I was in London, there are drug and alcohol services that you can just self refer to.
I can't go home and mess everything up again. Right now I really just want to die. I have got the crisis team number which I could try. I just feel like walking the 65 miles back to London. DH is going to post my new bank card to me today. I've just made such a massive fuck up of everything.
My DM is such an extrovert, there's nearly always some visitor here and I just can't face speaking to strangers so I'm literally confined to my bedroom for most of the time. I just don't know what to do.

MsHoolie I know you probably want to try and sort this out yourself but sometimes you need a little help when you are struggling and least feel like fighting your corner. Could your Mum ring the surgery? If not then I'd ring the crisis team if I were you .

Or how about ringing one of the services in London that you can self refer to and explaining your situation? You won't be the first in these circumstances. They may be able to advise.

You say you've made a massive fuck up of everything. Maybe you have, a little bit, I don't know. But it's NOTHING that can't be solved with some support and time. Really, it isn't .

Hollie is there an AA or NA group you can go to near your mum's? Maybe they can help you with referral?

(Hoolie not Hollie sorry!)

Right, after spending an hour on the phone being passed from pillar to post, I have found a walk in place that is open today from 5-7 pm so I will be first in the queue. And they are able to prescribe apparently. Thank you all so much, I honestly don't know how I would have coped without this place recently what with Brexit, Trump and alcoholism. Hopefully this is the beginning of things getting better.

You are a tenacious and tough cookie MsHoolie. You may not feel it right now but you are . Let us know how you get on if you feel able.

I just feel so awful for what I've put my parents through this last week. My mum and I have never exactly been close and have had some serious issues but, when the shit hits the fan, I always get this feeling of 'I want my mum'. It's like some kind of primeval thing.
And my dad has Parkinson's and has been told he has very early stage dementia. They don't need this. They're at an age where I should be looking after them.

Heman I certainly don't feel tough right now but thank you

Hello, can I join you please?

Have nc'd but have promised myself I need to sort myself out - alcohol wise. Have been drinking too much and have now got it into my head I've got cirrhosis. I suffer from health anxiety so not ever sure if my brain or body is telling the truth.

Anyway, the bottom line is that the health anxiety is flagging up that deep down I know I need to change so here I am - adult ticket please?