The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Good morning! How is everyone? How are you Cardigan?

Early night didn't go quite to plan - DS kept rattling around and then DP came home from work thundering about so I ended up MNetting and reading for ages. I didn't wake up until the alarm went off though so had a good 6 hours straight . I'm feeling irritantly cheery this morning .

The new face serum hasn't knocked 10 years off but I think the eye gel has improved my under eye crinkles ! Strangely, for someone who has (had!) no problem knocking back enormous amounts of booze, known to play havoc with your face/body, I am completely obsessed with skincare. Now I can call it self care and indulge! Hooray!

Irritatingly. I've pissed my phone off already .

Morning all. Beginning of day 5 for me, the past few days I've had an almost permanent headache, I've actually woke up with it today, could this be because I've stopped drinking do you think?

Yes Steeple. Have you tried sucking boiled sweets? Booze is full of sugar so you are likely suffering from sugar withdrawal too to add to the mix. Or you could try eating your own body weight in percy pigs like I do! Also, alcohol depletes your body of magnesium which can make you aching/painy. Try an epsom salt bath if you can. And vitamin B complex tablet is worth taking too if you don't already.

Morning. I had a decent night sleep too. Took my daughter to the cinema last night before my AA meeting I rang her after school and collected her then dropped her back off. I feel so much better for that. It breaks my heart seeing the effect it's had on my children's lives. But the best think I can do is stay sober then I can't do anymore damage through drinking. I was very emotional yesterday it's really started to hit home how life is without the numbing effects of booze. It's a strange feeling for me I've not felt or years. But a good one all the same another step on the road to recovery. Taking my son swimming this afternoon.

Cardigan i hope your ok today. Have a good day everyone. Stay away from one drink today. Tomorrow is a new day

Morning all

I have a small success to report. I took DD out yesterday evening to an event in our town. I don't enjoy this event and part way through the thought crossed my mind that I "deserved" a drink as a reward for taking her.
This is the sort of mentality I have got myself into. Anyway I resisted, didn't buy any wine -I have a bottle of AF stuff in the fridge, but by the time I got home I was fine.
Baby steps!
Hope you are all well.

herman ah that makes sense, I've started a healthier diet at the same time so very little sugar. Hopefully it will pass soon. On the plus side I just noticed my eyes look white, they were permenantly blood shot, I thought that was age or something, excuses excuses!

Morning,

Starting day 4

Rotten nights sleep again but that was as much due to the wriggling child who decided to sleep with me as anything!

Ruby well done on resisting the temptation.

Steeple. I had a real fuzzy headache on day 2 but it seems to have lifted.

Morning all. Day Five begins and it's not raining!
High fives ruby.
I also resisted the wine witch last night by getting busy with washing etc after dinner.
I had a good night's sleep again too and the nausea and headache/fuzzy head is gone. I just have a cold now instead.😕

Morning everyone. Day 14 here and I am so pleased I didnt drown my sorrows last night after my car bump - thanks everyone for your well wishes.

Really inspiring to see everyone on here keeping on keeping on!

MsHoolie brilliant advice on here I hope today is a bit brighter for you

I don't want to make this thread all about me but I took an overdose yesterday and got taken to A&E in an ambulance.
My DH is refusing to let me home. My parents live in the arse end of nowhere and, as I don't drive, I just feel completely trapped.
I live in London and I can just walk out of the house and get a bus or train to anywhere. I miss my children so much. It feels like my heart is breaking. I just don't see a way out. I hate what alcohol has done to me

Oh MsHoolie you poor love . Are you staying with your parents? If so, can you register with their GP surgery and get some help? You can get through this .

Mshoolie, today is a new day. Use it and make baby steps to getting better.

I've found the advice on here amazing. I'm day 4 AF today, something I haven't achieved for probably about 2 years. Yesterday I felt terrible, miserable and utterly exhausted. Last night I had weird dreams and woke DH shouting in my sleep.

Today I have had more energy and felt more alert than in a long time. Noticed today that my permanently high heart rate (usually 110-120 at rest) was near normal at 77. My eyes still look a bit rank and haven't much sparkle.

I still want a drink, the wine witch calls. This time of day is always bad. But I am in the bath with a sparkly vitamin drink I wouldn't have normally - thanks all for the tips.

Today I will not drink

mrshoolie you're not making it all about you. Everyone here just wishes you well. Are you drinking now?

I can fully understand how irritating and off putting some aspects of AA are, however I'm quite concerned that you are alone with your feelings right now. Is there anyone with you?

Please do consider going and sitting at one meeting tonight, just so that you are not alone. If you really can't do it ( which I understand) please read some of the many, many sober blogs or listen to the Bubble Hour podcasts.

You can do this, you will get better and with time you will be able to fix the things which alcohol appears to have taken from you.

If you are drinking now please pour it away and brush your teeth/ climb into bed / watch some rubbish on the telly. Big glass of milk or a sweet drink might help. If you're not drinking- then that's great. It's the beginning of your recovery.

I've met people who have come back from similarly difficult circumstances, once they were able to prove to their loved ones that they were serious about giving up drink then they were able to build up relationships again.

Big hug for you and I wish I could magic the WW away for you.

tang good to see you and bloody well done on your 3 days.
cardigan we had a babe on here a good while backthe whose husband took the dramatic stwpe of removing their baby from her and banning her from seeing him because of drink. She had to prove to the courts that she was clean and sober and had to jump through a hundred hoops but she did it to get her baby back. There wasnt a dry eye on the bus when the courts approved that she was fit to parent again. It can be done, but you have to want it more than anything in the world.

I have had a couple of glasses of wine. For the last couple of months I've been drinking around 150 units a week so it really wouldn't be a good idea for me to just stop. I have found a place in London that could help but I can't access it because DH won't let me come home. I just can't see a way out of this.

Yes I can see that you need to tail off rather than stop suddenly. The place in London sounds good but I guess you can't access it right now. Look for things to do now, today. Can you download or borrow the Jason vale book? Talk to AA online? Read some sober stories?

I'm off to bed now but I'm very worried about you and I hope you are somewhere safe right now. Best wishes.

You must tail.off gradually. My brother had to do the same. Your body is now dependent on alchole and stopping suddenly could kill you. Keep drinkingreducing just enough alcohol to.avoid the dts and have lots of water in between. Eat small amounts regularly. Please go to your GP for advice. You should have someone with you helping you

Thank you all. I'm going to bed. I'm still here.

Night night MsHoolie. Hope you get some rest. You must be exhausted .

I miss my children so much. I haven't seen them for 5 days. This is killing me.

Help me please

I'm still here. Not sure I'll be much use but I'm here anyway .

I'm dripping with sweat. I'm shaking. I feel like I'm dying

Is someone with you? I think you need medical assistance MsHoolie. Do you think you are having withdrawl symptoms?