My partner and I have had quite a rough patch the past three months. Been together 17 months. He has a lot of narc behaviours and had a history of drug abuse. He has told A LOT of lies, big lies regarding driving offences, drugs, finances. In his moments of weakness, he can have rages and be horrible to me at times. He has ended things with me and then an hour later is begging me back etc. He comes across as erratic a lot. However,.majority of the time he is a loving, caring man.
So the past few weeks things have been great and back to being really good. He then drops this massive bombshell that he was sexually abused as a child by HIS DAD.
I was in shock. His dad has always come across as slightly creepy and odd. They have no relationship, literally always small talk. We don't have a child together, but his child goes to his parents house but never stays over. Which I used to think was weird but now I think I know why.
I am in shock by it. But because of all his lying in the past about so much. I find it very difficult to believe it. (Please don't shoot me down). His mum is very much controlled by the dad you can see she has no backbone with regards to various family issues. My partner is also homophobic to an extreme level at times.
I know I am painting him as a vile man. He isn't, otherwise I wouldn't be with him.
But has anyone else has experience of this? I'm just in shock. He told me he has never told anyone.
Anyway, I shared it with my sister who's my usual go to in a situation. Her response was, "I dont believe him and I think hes said it to get you to feel sorry for him during a time where he was in the wrong for all his shittt behaviour towards you recently".