I have a terrible relationship with ExDH
We have tried to be amicable. Just not possible.
I told him I don't want any contact bar the basics and emergency contact re DS (4)
We have had an arrangement in place where he had him at weekends and I had him during the week. It's lasted about a year...
Several fallouts. Every time we fall out he refuses to see DS until we sort things out.
I've just had a text that says "I'm feeling bullied into having contact with xxxxx and you're emotionally blackmailing me"
What I had said was... I don't want a relationship with you however he does and every time you refuse to see him he is upset by this. It's him you hurt not me.
He's refusing to see DS or speak until we are amicable. I've lost all respect for him as a human being now but he is DS father and DS is pretty damn gutted and confused why he cannot call daddy or stay with him suddenly
If I go amicable... which I have done previously... there will be another fallout eventually and yet more refusal to see his son.
WTF do I do?