Husband left today

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Husband did something this morning that I couldn't ever forgive. I asked him to leave. He left.
3dc are upset, confused and blaming me. This will get easier right?

Yes it will
Have you some real life support?
for you
Do you want to talk about what happened?

It's hard to say based on what you've put up but, good luck op

Do you have RL support? It will get easier in time OP, the kids are reacting to a shock as are you.

Same boat 5 years ago. I cried 24/7 for 3 weeks and then the fog lifted. And I thought at last I had the chance of a happy life.
And I got one!!
New dh and a gorgeous toddler!!

He assaulted our teenage ds.
Unforgivable as I said.

It might also be worth posting on the teenagers board. Clashes between fathers and teen sons are incredibly common.

FWIW one of the (many reasons) I left my ex was the way he was with his (our) son. He couldn't handle not being the "man" of the house. My matching him in salary was also an issue

Oh OP that must have been awful for all of you. How is your DS now? I'm so sorry this has happened.

Yes it does get easier in time. Stay strong OP

Hi OP,

Can you explain what happened?

Ds is as okay as he can be thanks. I'm worried he thinks everything is his fault.
He and I were arguing this morning, nothing major. I went downstairs, husband got out of bed, through to the boys room and punched ds on the cheek.

He said he regretted doing it as soon as it happened.
I can't believe he did it.

That's pretty serious stuff. You need to talk to police, even if you don't want to press charges.

Maybe you can work it through somehow. Could he go for counselling? Are there any circumstances that could explain things? Is it totally out of character? I've done things that I've bitterly regretted.

It was an unprovoked attack on his own child.

What explanation covers that?

I'm glad your DS is doing ok, it must be tough for him. Your reassurance and security will show him that it's not his fault at all. How are you holding up?

Feel for you. My dh threatened to give our 15 yr old ds a "smack" last week. My reaction had he done so would be exactly the same as yours.

I can't see us working through this, to be honest I don't want to try.
Ds (and other dc) are my priority. This is their home, their safe space to be themselves and laugh, have fun. He took that away from them today.

I would report it to the police. He assaulted your son and everyone needs to see just how serious this is. Your son needs to see how serious you are taking it and not just his dad leaving but that it's against the law. You should also have it on record in case things get legally difficult

So sorry to hear this - that behaviour is unacceptable. So glad you have put your ds first. It will absolutely get easier but I agree on notifying the police it won't be easy but I think it's the right thing to do. Good luck

What did he hear your ds say to you op?

Well done for putting your children's safety first - i know this must be really horrible but i'd like to think i'd do the same thing as you - how old is DS? Doesn't impact on the gravity of what has happened but if older then he may wish to be involved re decision (or not) on notifying the police....

Ds had refused to take the dog out for a walk, she was bursting so I did it. I got back and when up to the room to speak to ds, he was moody and a bit rude. He does have a bad attitude at times but nothing extreme.

I called my mum to come over as I was worried how husband would react. Said to him what he'd done was unacceptable and I think he should leave. He got some things together, spoke to the kids, apologised to ds and left.
He came back a few hours later for a few more things, asked if I was sure this was what I wanted. Everyone was crying.
I got the house keys from him and have photographed dcs cheek

Where's he gone?

What if he agreed to go to some kind of anger counselling?

That's totally unacceptable to punch your DS.