OH just burst out laughing at me in a swimsuit

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Currently hiding in the loo sobbing. Tomorrow we go on our first sun holiday since having our first baby (10 months ago).
I gained 5 stone during my pregnancy but lost most of it. I'm now pregnant again (about 7 weeks) and have just stopped breastfeeding, so my tummy has shot out - and my boobs... well they're not what they used to be. But all in all I feel fairly body confident, especially considering the above. Was a size 6 pre-preg, and am now a size 10 - pretty good going really. Last time I tried on my bikinis / holiday clothes (a couple of months ago before I was pregnant) they fitted okay but obviously a lot has changed since them. I was just trying one on (one that had always made me feel really good about my bod) and he comes in and literally bursts out laughing. I burst out crying and hide in the loo.
It really didn't look that bad. I mean, I wouldn't have worn it, but I certainly didn't think it was comically bad.
I'm the type of person who always laughs at themselves, but this just wasn't funny. I think he was a bit shocked at how upset this has made me. It hadn't occurred to me that he might not find me attractive anymore, because I felt so happy with my body and what it had done (made baby, fed baby for 10 months, start making a new baby). I feel like a pile of turd now, and certainly not a pile of turd that fancies donning any form of swimwear around him any time soon.

I just think it's insensitive. In my mind the only response to seeing your partner in swimwear or underwear etc is "oh my! how on earth have I walked into Victoria's Secret fashion show rehearsals...oh wait it's you my darling...".

Really? You've already said he's not the type to shower you in compliments...

Plus that just sounds all sorts of fake. You wouldn't believe it; he'd sound like a knob.

Go make up. It's a lot more likely that he's telling the truth and you were pulling s face and doing something that he thought was amusing; rather than that he was laughing at your body, but he should apologise that he got it wrong and he's upset you.

Your body has done amazing things and size 10 is brilliant. It doesn't matter that your old size six' don't fit, really... you're brilliant as you are.

In my mind the only response to seeing your partner in swimwear or underwear etc is "oh my! how on earth have I walked into Victoria's Secret fashion show rehearsals...oh wait it's you my darling...".

Just goes to show, takes all sorts...if my husband walked in on me half dressed and said that, I would feel as though he were making fun of me for not looking like a Victoria's Secret model.

I think it's your hormones. He wasn't laughing at what you looked like in the cossy. You've said so yourself.

I know what you mean OP. Pregnant and hormonal and feeling like a whale at the moment. I do laugh at how round I am though and DH sometimes joins in probably because he knows it's okay to laugh. My body isn't going to be the same after 2 pregnancies and I wouldn't trust him if he said I looked the same. Your DH isn't sneering or being mean to you although I know it feels that way; if sounds like he was laughing at your facial expressions and not the illfitting swimsuit. Go have a fabulous holiday!