would this bother you?

[Nadinexo1]

so, a while back I was talking to my partner on the phone during his lunch hour as he calls me everyday to and from work and lunch time. I was cooking at the time so had my phone on hands free. as he said bye i thought he would hang up as I couldn't as I was chopping vegetables, anyway I heard his colleague say "who was that girl who came in before"
partner replied " new customer"
colleague "she's fit, does she need an engineer out" (they work for a telecommunications company)
partner- "she needs my dick in her" then they were laughing. at this point my partner must've looked at his phone and realised he hadn't hung up and I heard him say oh shit then he hung up.
I didn't say anything until he came home and I went mad but he insisted this is how guys talk and he was sorry but it's not the type of thing he usually says. I accepted this but it still gets to me.
Am I right to be pissed off?

a - if it isn't what he normally says, then how can he say it is normal? [changed his story = liar]
b - talking like that about customers is likely to be gross misconduct [doesn't respect customers, women or his job]
c - he said that whilst still on the phone to you. [doesn't respect you and stupid]

So basically he is a lying, stupid. misogynistic twat.

Is this really someone you want to spend your life with? Only you can decide.

He's lying about it not usually being the sort of thing he says. I get banter but that's disgusting. Uncalled for to say what he said.

I don't think it's what every guy says when women aren't around

It demonstrates underlying misogyny and sexism

Is this really acceptable in a partner to you?

It's disgusting. Horrible to hear. If that was my dh he'd be going without his dick in anything for a good week or more.

Well t

Well to be fair there are threads on here where women say thinking about men they fancy and it can be quite crude. Everyone jokes and laughs and probably knows and expects that these people have a happy marriage/relationship and don't actually mean it.

So, I'd probably just hope that was the case here too.

*say things! Not say thinking

How much of a partner is he?

A mortgage and children level partner or a boyfriend you've been seeing for several months level partner?

It is what a certain type of man says when his partner/girlfriend/wife isn't around, but it's not what all men say when there are no women around...

thanks for the replies. I was being made to feel like I was going over the top by being upset about it and he was telling me that I'm lucky as most guys actually have affairs and all he did was say something stupid.
At least now I know I have a right to be upset about it.

You're lucky because most guys have affairs? Wow.

Your last post makes him sound even worse! 'Most guys have affairs so you're lucky he only says stupid things'? Jesus wept!

Holy shit, now you're lucky that this fine specimen of a man who clearly has to fight hot women off with a stick has stayed faithful to you? Pffft. More like he's lucky you haven't run for the fucking hills! there's still time OP

Ew yuck, that's so disgusting! I'd imagine some men do comment on other women and it's all innocent, but that's a pretty gross thing to say...

Never ever put up with any man who thinks you should be grateful. His further comment about affairs and justifying his behaviour would find him dumped.

Some men do speak like this but they are massive sexist wankers that objectify women but there are more of them than lots of people realise. Because the one thing he has got right is that they generally only do this in their crappy boys club settings.

I would ask him how he would feel if someone talked about his Mum, sister, auntie etc like that

So he's chauvinistic - and thinks you should be grateful for his fidelity? This man is not a catch.

Elbow time. LTB.

the thing is he is actually very respectful of myself and all the females in his life.
After my children I felt very overweight and ugly and worthless and he made me feel like the most beautiful woman ever. he's never been bothered if I have stretch marks or was heavier than before he says none of that matters and praises me on anything I do, which is why this comment surprised me so much.
I just don't get which is the real him if u know what I mean.

He isn't respectful at all. You just got that proof with your own ears. Have you forgotten that already ?

Yeah he sounds respectful towards women.

He's misogynistic and it's so obvious. His comments are disgusting.

That's the way 15 year-old chavs talk.

I think a lot of men talk like this, when there are no women within earshot. It's all very well, with previous posters saying that men don't talk like this, but NOT ONE of them, has ever been a fly on the wall when it's guys together and no females nearby.

On the flip side, think about the kind of talk that goes on between women at a hen night / Ann Summers Party / male stripper night.....I bet my bottom dollar, that loads of women have said something at those events, that in the cold light of day, would sound utterly horrifying to their Partners. I know that I have.

That said, I like you, would be very hurt at over hearing this.

I don't do the hen night/Ann Summers/male stripper shit so please do not put me in the same frame as this guy

Yeah, I don't do the hen night/Ann Summers/male stripper stuff either.

Two wrongs don't make a right and all that...

Ltb