Have namechanged as so fed up with this 'advice' people are dishing out around me. It probably comes across as bitter and negative, but I'm losing my patience with it. Do people not think?
Background: H first left about a year ago, back and forth for the year with a few months trying again. He has left for good now, has just started divorce proceedings, has moved to Cornwall to live in a van and surf. He has chucked in his job. No OW, he still loves me but wants to be free.
Things I've heard are:
If you were my wife, I would't leave you - Erm, thanks. Not helpful.
I would love an evening on my own - just have a bubble bath. - thanks, the novelty wears off quickly if it's evenings on my own almost every night.
Honestly, you don't want kids. They are more hassle than anything. Ok, why are you having a second then, pregnant work colleague?
Urgh, my husband is useless at times. I envy you. Leave him then. No? Thought so.
If you are sad that you don't have children, do you want to babysit mine? I would love date night with my husband. Fuck off.
You are free now. And before I wasn't?
Loneliness is not real. Just meet people, do a club. Ok, I get that. There is a difference though between keeping busy and social (so not being alone) and feeling lonely.
Aww I know you miss your h. Get a cat. Yes, a cat will be just like a actual human partner.
Arghhh there's more but I can't be arsed. I know I'm being unfair, bitter and unkind but it grates.
I also know it's all about mindset and people try to be helpful and kind, but I needed this rant 
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