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Original poster

Third date invited me to his place ..after sex?

58 replies

Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:11

It's the 3rd date and his invited me to his place to chill.
Do you think he is after sex?
In my eyes I still want to be doing things out and about not just go to his place.

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FrizzyNoodles · 27/08/2017 14:14

It probably is. What did you do for the first two dates? Find something different and suggest that.

SleepFreeZone · 27/08/2017 14:15

Yep!

Josuk · 27/08/2017 14:15

If you are not ready, you are not ready. Don't do anything you don't want to.
In that case - and to avoid mismatched expectations - just suggest another place for a date.

Original poster
Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:15

First date was a few drinks and second date the beach /park

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JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 14:17

Is this a third date with the man you've already posted about twice this weekend?

The one you posted about not fancying after two dates in one thread and then revealed his sleazy requests in another?

Why did you go on a third date with him?

HarrisHawk · 27/08/2017 14:17

Yes, a lot of men now seem to have a preconception that third date means sex. If you're not ready then it would be better to meet elsewhere, which is a subtle way of letting him know it's not on the cards yet.

CoinOperatedGurl · 27/08/2017 14:18

I'm surprised you haven't done it yet lol.

But yes. I only ever invite men back to mine for sex. I don't really want to have a conversation with them. So I'd assume this was his plan too. Netflix and chill lol.

Original poster
Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:19

I haven't gone on a third date..this would be the 3rd date.

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ChickenBhuna · 27/08/2017 14:19

Hot pants guy?

What do you even care what he wants? What do YOU want?

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 14:20

Ok. Why are you going on a third date with him?

You don't fancy him.

He told you to dress up in a way that he finds sexy.

You don't fancy him.

Why are you going on a third date with him?

Original poster
Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:20

hot pants guy yeah.
I don't know what to say to him or if I even want to go on a 3rd date or is it even worth it.

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EverythingEverywhere1234 · 27/08/2017 14:20

Maybe, maybe not. Personally I'm not into home dates until you're pretty much a proper couple, meet there, cup of tea or whatever but not an actual date. Its too couple-y for me, and I don't like to rush into that.

Original poster
Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:21

Pretty pointless isn't it.

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EverythingEverywhere1234 · 27/08/2017 14:21

Oh god why are you seeing that bloody weirdo again??

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 14:21

Oh, and of course he wants sex.

If you fancied him, you might well want to have sex with him on the third date too!

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 14:23

At the risk of repeating myself...

Why are you even considering a third date with someone...

you don't fancy?

already have doubts about to the extent you've started 2 threads about him already?

who is clearly a twat?

ChickenBhuna · 27/08/2017 14:24

What you've said here is that you don't find him attractive and that he made a weird sounding request. Didn't he also say he likes 'his women sexy' as well?

DearMrDilkington · 27/08/2017 14:28

You need to set your bar higher...

Original poster
Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:28

Yeah he did.
Would you tell him you didn't fancy him or just make a excuse?

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Original poster
Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:28

I 100% couldn't have sex with him

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EverythingEverywhere1234 · 27/08/2017 14:28

You don't need to explain anything, just say you're not feeling it so won't be seeing him again.

pombal · 27/08/2017 14:29

He wants you to don your hot pants and get round his for sex.

He's been pretty clear.

What do you want?

CoinOperatedGurl · 27/08/2017 14:29

Stop dating him then.

user1485639128 · 27/08/2017 14:29

Just tell him your not interested. Not sure why your wasting yours and his time when you don't fancy him

JK1773 · 27/08/2017 14:33

You don't fancy him, he's already tried telling you what to wear, he now wants sex and you don't. Just end it. You are coming across insincere and immature tbh