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Third date invited me to his place ..after sex?

58 replies

Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 14:11

It's the 3rd date and his invited me to his place to chill.
Do you think he is after sex?
In my eyes I still want to be doing things out and about not just go to his place.

OP posts:
ChickenBhuna · 27/08/2017 14:33

Just tell him you're not free to see him anymore and wish him luck with dating. Then block him on all social media , his number from your phone and move on.

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 14:33

I'm assuming you met him online?

I always replied with something like:

"Hi. I won't be meeting you for a third date. I hope you find what you are looking for."

A decent, normal person would reply with something like, "Ok, no worries. Good luck to you too"

Or just block.

If you couldn't have sex with him, why were you even considering a third date? Eventually, dating someone will lead them to thinking you're interested and want sex with them...

CockacidalManiac · 27/08/2017 14:43

If you don't fancy him, then why consider a third date?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 27/08/2017 14:46

I suggested what you could say to him on your previous thread

'...and I like my men sexy. Bye'

He's a twisted perv & you'd be fucking stupid to go to his house. Absolutely fucking stupid

daisychain01 · 27/08/2017 14:59

OP I do feel sad for you that you're still cut up about your ex and will do almost anything to try to get over how shitty he has made you feel.

But please please keep your self respect and ditch this man, it will only make you feel worse.

It's a long weekend, if you're in UK, get out and get some sunshine and make yourself feel better not worse. Have you got any companionship (other than with this dipstick) with someone you can go and see a film with, or have a drink/ meal with.

That has to be a better morale booster than with someone who obviously makes your skin crawl.

NurseButtercup · 27/08/2017 14:59

No no no
You don't fancy him
He's a creep
Block his number and stop replying to him.

You mentioned that you're still not over your ex, I understand that you're probably missing a bit of male company, but this is not the way to go about it.

It's a beautiful day - enjoy spending time on your own. Go for a walk, go to the cinema, go visit friends and family you haven't seen in a while. Or stay in and read a book or watch a Netflix box set.

Do anything but go on another date with him!

Have you still got a date on Friday to look forward to?

daisychain01 · 27/08/2017 15:01

Nurse, that is seriously spooky we have xposted a similar comment at exactly the same time. It must be true Grin

ShitOrBust · 27/08/2017 15:14

Of course he only wants you for a cheap fuck.
you're not good enough to spend money on, out on a proper normal date, but fine for a shag, in his eyes.
ditch this twatty loser.

NurseButtercup · 27/08/2017 15:19

daisychain01 Great minds think alike Grin

Let's hope OP takes onboard our advice Confused

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Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 15:43

Can anyone tell me what you think about this...
Yesterday we got the train back from the date,we got on and he said "I don't think this is the right train"
I said "honestly it is"
Then he goes "I'm not sure "
Then I said jokingly "bet you £5 it is" (I really didn't want £5 I just said it jokingly)
He quickly responds with a shocked look and says "no no I'm not giving you £5,I'm not betting you"
In my head I'm thinking calm down mate I'm only joking

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JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 15:50

FFS.

Why does it matter what people think about it?

You don't fancy him.
You don't want to go out with him.
You don't want to ever have sex with him.

What is the point?

FWIW, you made a crap joke and he didn't realise.

ShatnersWig · 27/08/2017 15:52

Yet another thread about the same new bloke? Christ what a ridiculous thing

shivermytimbers · 27/08/2017 15:53

Why are you even considering seeing him again? You don't even like him. Maybe you need to consider why you're even contemplating spending any more time with him... It's not rational!

ImperialBlether · 27/08/2017 15:54

I thought that once we'd all laughed about hot pants guy you realised he was a complete twat. You told us you didn't fancy him. Now you want to know if you should go to his house "to chill" (I like this man less and less the more you talk about him) when you know he wants to have sex with you and you don't fancy him in the slightest.

We can't live your life for you. If you end up sleeping with this sleazebag we won't be affected. You will. Why put yourself through that?

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 15:55

Worst thing is, Shatners, it's not even a 'new bloke'. It's someone she's been on 2 dates with and doesn't like!

She's started more threads about him than she's been on dates with him!

ImperialBlether · 27/08/2017 15:55

He sounds as though he's tight if he's so scared you're going to take a fiver off him. Did he pay for his share of the drinks on your first date? Was there anything more than a walk involved in date 2? An icecream?

Helloyouitsme · 27/08/2017 15:58

Do not go to his place if you don't want sex. Even if he says that's fine.

You say on your other thread he is 'not sexy'. Why would you see him again?

You are acting like it is out of your control when really all you have to do is say no.

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 16:01

You are acting like it is out of your control when really all you have to do is say no.

Yes.

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Nat123xxx · 27/08/2017 16:03

Yeah we went on the lake in the park then went halfs for tokens for the dodgems.
We had 2 spare tokens and wernt going to use them so I suggested giving them to a family for their kids to use he refused an put them in his pocket.
Your right I'm wasting my time so I'm just going to see I don't think we are right for each other and try Friday's date out

OP posts:
Helloyouitsme · 27/08/2017 16:06

You don't owe him anything so don't feel bad about telling him you don't want to see him again.

Ttbb · 27/08/2017 16:06

Yes. What else could it be for?

ImperialBlether · 27/08/2017 16:10

When the hell is he ever going to use those tokens again?! Honestly he sounds completely useless.

QuietAsAMouse1 · 27/08/2017 16:14

Maybe not sex but definitely some privacy and intimacy

blueshoes · 27/08/2017 16:24

OP, are you overthinking this (or not using your head enough?).

Suggest another location if you still want to see him. It is really that simple.

JetBoyJetGirl · 27/08/2017 16:25

blueahoes that's the thing, she doesn't even want to see him again!

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