First time posting so bear with me! Need an outlet and some support.
DH and I have one 4-month old and only got married last summer
His job in property involves lots of boozy nights out and I'm finding this really hard- Having difficulties trusting him.
I snooped on his phone after one too many times he returned home drunk.
His boss has been sleeping with various prostitutes (he also has son of 4 months) and he and DH have 'banter' along lines of
-DH saying he has a secret bank account to save for 'inevitable' divorce from me and 'whenever and however' our marriage ends his boss will be a witness
There is no evidence of DH doing anything with other women but there are sleazy texts e.g. 'She has a nice chassis' (bleurgh)
He has also made invited several blokes to a work BBQ selling it as 'booze and birds'
At home DH appears completely loving and soppy.
I'm heartbroken about the lies and the sleaze and this is not who I thought he was.
Do I
- discuss with him and risk inevitable wrath about snooping and possibility of him just going more underground?
- hold fire and see what happens?
Am I being oversensitive?
Thanks 