What does a healthy relationship look like?

[Imbeingunreasonable]

Hi all,

This is a weird thread title and I suppose from the outset it should be obvious.

Having come out of a stormy 5 and a half year relationship of which I had children in, I just wondered what a decent relationship looks like?

I could wax lyrical about all the shit stunts ex pulled on me. But I'm now reflecting on was he justified? Did I put fuel on his fire? Or was it just never meant to be?

So I'm looking for your examples of what a healthy relationship looks like when it comes to finances, housework, childcare, sex, hobbies and interests etc as I feel been left stunned by what has happened over a few years. Even though I ended it.

Are people comfortable with discussing hairy topics with their partners for instance or does it always end in an argument?

Any advice greatly appreciated.

I haven't although I know what he's done would very much be classed as such. I don't want him to get a criminal record or anything as it may effect his future employment etc. He knows what he did was wrong in that sense. The last time he did it I cried and didn't speak to him for two days. He apologised then said "but I'm sexually frustrated". Doesn't even sound sincere.

This isn't about him. Ringing RC is about you getting help to recover from your ordeal. The question in your op has obscured the truth of what you've been through.

It happened a few times. Not sure if I'm making a deal out of it as he flew off the handle a few times I brought it up.