How much does your OH help at home?

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Just that really. His excuse of doing no housework is that he goes to work full time. Whilst I appreciate this it just gets a bit monontonus when I'm left doing all the childcare, cooking, cleaning. As well as working part time. So just wondering really what your full time working partners do?

If the washing basket started to overflow he would just bring the basket down and suggest I got on top of it.

If my DH were to do this, I would bring the basket down on top of his head and suggest he stuck it where the sun don't shine. I advise you to do the same, OP.

I work five days a week, my husband works four days a week. He does most grocery shopping (I don't drive) and cooking. Laundry is evenly split though I do most folding and putting away. I tend to change the beds and he tends to do the bins. We have a cleaner once a week which helps a lot. Other big periodic cleaning tasks that the cleaner doesn't do (e.g. cleaning out fridge, windows, etc) I tend to do. We're relatively even matched, he possibly does a tiny bit more.

DP is gone 7-7 and I am on mat leave (3 DC). When around he does about half of general tasks and I get weekend lie ins as he's an early bird. I do the lion's share of housework at the moment but when I get back to work in a few months it will be split, including shopping, cooking, does bins, laundry and half the home admin. I do school runs, child admin and calendar planning.

I'm the OH: DH is SAHD and I work full time. He does cooking (in the week), laundry and most of the childcare. I do bins, admin and cooking at the weekend. Shopping is shared. We have a cleaner for the rest.

If your DH were single, he would have to do the basic stuff to keep himself fed and clothed regardless of how many hours he was working.

It also depends on the type of work he is doing and his hours
Some people are more exhausted when the others depending on how hard they work.

If your OH is not doing anything weekdays then you can involve him in homework during the weekends? Say, you can butch cook and let him do ( at least ) some light kitchen work

Most of the cooking, all of the washing/ironing, a fair share of entertaining the kids. I mostly do the cleaning and tidying. He prob does more than me but I work longer hours. I never ask for him to do any of it- we are a team of equals sharing a home equally with our children who we both produced. We're in it together and I find it sad to imagine any other way of doing it really.

Pretty much zero. But his money has always paid the cleaner, the window cleaner, the ironed, the gardener ...... I work f/t too now but didn't work until youngest started school. We are a team. We make equal contributions in our own ways and my support has facilitated his success.

If the washing basket started to overflow he would just bring the basket down and suggest I got on top of it.
Did the op say this?!! I would take the basket, open the second storey window, sort through and every time I came to something that was his, toss it out. When I was done I would ask if he had any more washing that needed handling, call his mum and tell him she could have him back (and mean it- I'd toss his keys and phone out the door and tell him mummy knows you're coming.) No word of a lie. I can't imagine an adult man actually saying that.

We share everything. Some jobs are mine (laundry, my choice), some are his (bins, gardening, weekly shop), some mostly one of us tends to do but it's fine for whoever to say 'I cba today, can you?' (e.g. dh: litter boxes, cleaning bathroom; me: mopping kitchen and hallway floors each evening). We share the cooking, I prob do more in normal weeks, but he's a great cook and will always come up with something if I'm out of inspiration. I do do more 'stuff' overall because I work fewer hours. I also do stuff he doesn't think to do - changing beds, hoovering the rugs - plus most family admin, finances etc. But I get a coffee every morning in bed and he does the morning nursery run and makes the dcs' packed lunches every bloody morning.

I am lucky. But so is he.

DH works FT me PT. He does same amount as I do, always has. When I dropped my hours he never became expectant that I'd do more than him. It's our home that we both are responsible for the care of.

Dp works 45 hour week and helps with our daughter i.e feeds will do some housework to im a stay at home parent looking after the family and cook clean

My DP is currently working away mon-fri so he's not doing as much. Before he was working 40/50 hours but at home it was a pretty even split. We both agree, me being at home is to be with DD and not to do the housework, although I obviously do more of the general daily tidying and cleaning seen as I'm in more.
Even working away, he does the majority of ironing, all garden and car related stuff, cooks at least once over the weekend, does all of DD's bath/bedtimes he's here for, does the food shop and generally keeps things tidy and clean as he goes along, plus any diy or one off stuff.