Me and my exh have been split 2 years exactly. I'm still in the matrimonial home with his 2 children (8 and 6) as he didn't want to come to an agreement re finances. This house is solely in his name, but as I say we're still married, 9years now. He was advised by the police and my solicitor to keep away from the house when we first split as he was emotionally and physically abusive to me.
He lives in a rented house. He owns 2 other houses which are rented out but are not in his name, all very dodgy. Anyway, we had finally settled on an amount which is very low considering the amount involved, I am just sick and tired of fighting him.
Exh had the children last weekend and dropped them off at mine Monday night. Me and the dc went on holiday Wednesday morning with a big group of friends and all their children, for a close friend's wedding.
We had a lovely first day, kids playing in pool, out for a nice meal in the evening etc. When we got back to the room my mum rang me to say my exh had broken into our home and was packing all our things up to put into storage.
We booked the next flight back from there at a cost of £800, this was then delayed 16 hours. It was horrendous. We finally got back into uk Friday morning. He'd literally cleared everything out and changed the locks. Even took the cutlery, cups and plates.
We got the police involved. They spoke to him.
He told me where the stuff was. Give me the key to the storage container so we could get it back.
His plan was to move me out whilst I was gone. And move himself in.
Then I expect he was never going to pay the divorce settlement.
I don't know if he ever intends on paying it.
I hate him so much. This is awful what he's done, wrecking the children's holiday, having them go through all this, coming home to an empty house. They shouldn't have to see it all.
We've unpacked all the boxes now and our things are back where they should be. But the children are still so upset about what has happened. The eldest is having headaches and has said he's got 'butterflies' in his tummy.
I'm waiting on a call back from my solicitor. I want to see if there is a court order so he can't come in the house again. Just until the divorce is finished.
I've said I won't ever stop the children seeing their dad. But they're getting old enough now to make their own mind up and have said they don't want to see him.