Do your parents like your spouse?

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I think mine do not. They have always something negative to say... and i like both my parents and my hubby.

They didn't get along particularly well as they are very very different but they would never have criticised him out loud to me and if they did I would have shut them right down.

It happens. You can't expect everyone you like to necessarily like each other. What you can expect, though, is good behaviour and good manners and that includes being polite when together and no criticism. They can bitch all they like to each other but shouldn't be saying anything to you (unless they are worried about you being badly treated, of course).

Sometimes I think that they like my DH more than me!!

They liked my 1st husband - until he left me! We'd been together 17 years.

They liked my 2nd husband, partly cos he was a really nice bloke, partly because he made me so happy, partly because he was so good with my kids.

Don't have contact with my Dad so couldn't give a shit what he thinks

Mum sees DP as an extension of me - we're very similar and whilst she thinks he can be a bit of a selfish dick sometimes (as we all do, friends and family alike, even himself) she does have a very soft spot for him and always have. He's talkative and opens up to her and treats her like a Mum. He hasn't a bad word against her and neither has she against him.

My MIL is a self indulgent, blame everyone type of person so I'm sometimes brilliant to her and other times I'm probably awful. I couldn't give a shit. She knows not to pull the argumentative stuff on me like she's done with my DPs exes. His Dad I think is ambivalent - doesn't really care either way. DP has a very complex relationship with his parents/family so tbh it's not that important to him that his parents approve of his relationship.

My parents adore my husband!

My ILs like me too. They really really hate my husband's brother's wife though, she has no idea how much she is disliked. Some people know how to be very polite to your face.

I wonder how this thread would look if the question was reversed?

My mum doesn't particularly like my DH, this doesn't bother me, what does annoy me is how she goes on about how much my grandparents adore her husband because he's so "respectful". My grandparents hate my mums husband, they just are nicer than she is so wouldn't say anything to her about it.

My ex my mum said was like one of ex boyfriends so she got him.
My dad hated him but died after we had been married only 6 months so did not really have a chance to get to know him .but he did know I was unhappy with him.

absolutely not at all. but they have good reason. it's complicated and I'm on their side. they are very polite/kind so he has little idea and nonetheless we press on.

Viserion I sympathise with this. I think my parents were extremely rigid like yours in an unhealthy way although the emphasis might be different- they were very pro women having careers and if anything anti kids and marriage just ridiculously rigid views!!

I can't say it's even entered my conscious whether my parents like him or not. It's my opinion that counts. Neither of them have picked decent partners so I really couldn't give two shits about their opinion.