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Do your parents like your spouse?

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Snafu1988 · 21/08/2017 14:51

I think mine do not. They have always something negative to say... and i like both my parents and my hubby.

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BarbarianMum · 21/08/2017 15:56

They adore him, pretty sure they were certain that no one would take me off their hands.

"Thank you so much for marrying our daughter. She can be very difficult."

MimsyBorogroves · 21/08/2017 15:59

Yep, they're delighted with him (and they both got really annoyed with my ex, so that's saying something)

We don't think his parents like me.

JK1773 · 21/08/2017 15:59

My parents hated my ex. They thought he was ignorant and rude and tight fisted (he was all of these things). His parents and me had a mutual dislike too. They were bloody nightmares.

LoyaltyAndLobster · 21/08/2017 16:16

I couldn't be with someone who my mum and dad didn't like, as they know best.

Ecureuil · 21/08/2017 16:24

I couldn't be with someone who my mum and dad didn't like, as they know best

My parents love my DH, but they certainly don't 'know best' who I should spend my life with.

LoyaltyAndLobster · 21/08/2017 16:29

My parents love my DH, but they certainly don't 'know best' who I should spend my life with

Ok.

heron98 · 21/08/2017 16:34

I think they weren't sure when we got together because he's quite a bit younger than me and also not staggeringly middle class like they are. But I do think they've warmed to him.

Emboo19 · 21/08/2017 16:44

Not married, but my parents love my DP. My dad in particular gets on really well with him, they often go out for a pint or even days out together.
That said when he was being a idiot, both unquestionably took my side and were disappointed in him.

My grandparents aren't keen on him though and they hate my dad.

TieGrr · 21/08/2017 16:59

I think my mother is mostly relieved he's male - she was convinced I was gay for years.

Aroundtheworldandback · 21/08/2017 17:02

2nd marriage- my parents idolise my dh who spoils them rotten and treats them as his own.

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 21/08/2017 17:04

Yes, however I don't think his parents like me as much. Certainly not his mum. Tis all a bit strange really coz I'm lovely!! 😂

travis45 · 21/08/2017 17:07

Yes, sometimes more then me 🙈

Androidsdreamofelectricsheep · 21/08/2017 17:08

My mother doesn't like DH much. Never asks after him in her weekly phone call. After 43 years of marriage we just let her get on with it tbh. She really liked my sister's husband although recently she has let slip that he can be a 'bit difficult'. I don't think she is the greatest judge of character.

redexpat · 21/08/2017 17:13

Yes. DH is a cub leader and DF was a Scout leader. Dm LOVES him. And the ILs love me too.

meltingmarshmallows · 21/08/2017 17:22

He's stolen the lime light entirely and I now think they prefer him to me!

crookedpinky · 21/08/2017 19:08

The difficulty can be made worse by the expectations of two different generations I think. I don't particularly like PIL and really didn't like exPIL (for valid reasons). My parents are late.

I'm not so much bothered what PIL think of me but am always polite so they have no ammunition to use against me. It works just the way it is, and apart from old family friends I don't have personal friends of that age group because we don't have much in common.

For me it would be like pushing a square peg into a round hole to be mates or friends with PIL.

peachgreen · 21/08/2017 19:49

Yes, they love him. Mostly because he's incredibly good to me, I think, but also because he's just a thoroughly lovely person. Having said that, even if they didn't like him I'd still be with him. I mean, they don't like ME much a lot of the time!

None of us like my brother's girlfriend much though. Blush

gottachangethename1 · 21/08/2017 20:04

My mum likes dh but thinks I could have done better. Mil thinks I'm common and wishes I came from money but has grown to like meConfused

SandyY2K · 21/08/2017 20:08

Yes they do. I know there are ways they'd like him to be different. Probably the same things I wish were different, but they would never say it to me.

He's friendly, responsible and hard working, so that works.

tigerlager · 21/08/2017 20:11

Yes they adore him. I think they probably like him better than me Grin. Probably would have preferred him to be the same ethnicity as them/me though, though they've never said it.

betrayedandwobbly · 21/08/2017 20:15

Yes, they thought he was great (fairly endogamous match)

Which meant their character judgement was as shitty as mine (serial philanderer)

Olddear · 21/08/2017 20:31

My parents loved my husband, and he loved them.

DoesHeWantToOrNot · 21/08/2017 20:58

My parents hated my ex husband but never told me until after we split.

They now seem to think the sun shines out of dps arse. But that might be because he gave them a grandchild Grin

PlaymobilPirate · 21/08/2017 21:01

Yes - although they didn't at first. He supports a different football team and looks 'rough'

My man is still wary but she struggles with relationships with men in general.

My dad loves him, they banter and wind each other up about the footy. They go to the pub together and have been on a boys weekend away. Dad phones my DP before either of my brothers if he fancies a pint.