Any Muslim women around to advise?

[insecureegg]

I have been dating a Muslim man unofficially but I'm worried now I am an OW and if I should break things off

Please be kind but truthful

He told me he was divorced. I've discovered that legally this isn't the case yet

He tells me he is divorced islamically and soon will be legally. They have dc

He says he won't ever go back but someone said he'll just be using me to try and marry so it's ok for them to get back together???

Can that happen? Obviously in practice anything is possible but in theory... does Islam allow him to marry and divorce so they can remarry???

Am I being a naive OW?

You can't help who you fall for.
It would be easier in life if we could fall for same culture/background etc but it's not as easy as that.

I would not have chosen to date a Muslim man and it's scary territory but I really do believe if genuine we are a fantastic match and it's happened. I have dated a man before from another culture and had a very bad experience which is why I'm insecure as I was deceived before

You are a "fantastic match" because he is working hard on establishing this connection; he may be mirroring you with agreement to draw you in. Deceptive, insincere...yes, lies.

You have had a bad experience. Why not let that guide you to make a boundary for yourself? You would not have chosen to date a Muslim man, which is a boundary. Why was your boundary ineffective? Do You have trouble saying "no"?

Are a few smiles and compliments enough to make you forget your previous experience and your own preferences (which are not prejudices, ...well, imho perhaps they are prejudices but in choosing a bf, dp, dh, etc prejudices are justified (and not just about race, but smoking, drugs/alcohol, lifestyle, and, yes, appearance among many other parameters))? Don't throw away your experience bank. I

It is very complicated. Too complicated. Step away.