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Am I mad for considering this?

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Confused299 · 18/08/2017 23:06

I met someone a couple of months ago on an online dating site, he was the first person I felt I clicked with and was easy to talk to/non sleazy and just seemed nice and 'normal'. We went on a few dates and got on well and I started developing feelings for him. Then he completely disappeared, fast forward and I've found out from a friend of a friend that he's been charged with GBH and is in prison awaiting a trial. The incident is from before I met him but I wasn't aware of it until now. He has also been charged with 2 other lesser assaults (not trying to minimise but being factual) from a another night. I'm aware that I should be running for the hills but I'm considering writing to him... I don't know why and I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve. But feel like I would like to have contact with him, even as a friend. Am I completely mad? What sort of prison sentence can someone expect for GBH/other assaults? I just feel like I need answers/closure.

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NarcsBegone · 19/08/2017 09:51

I said let him do his time, get sober and several years down the line then maybe consider. Meaning if he has managed to rehabilitate and stick with a program and not relapse when things go tits up perhaps then there may be a chance... it's unlikely but it does happen however another person cannot fix another person.

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