It's my fault he fell out of love

[Happytobefree17]

According to my ex, my not forgiving him for having an affair was what made him fall out of love with me in the end.

WTAF?

He actually said this in all seriousness! And I am grateful he did because I no longer have an ounce of regret about ending the relationship.

To think I had considered giving it another go! Thanks ex, you helped me dodge a bullet there!

Ugh what a Narc little prick

Wow ! I honestly can hardly believe he's a real person 😂 what an idiot. You're so lucky to have dodged that bullet!
Just out of interest op, do you think if you had an affair then he'd have to accept it as it's 'natural'. Surely that goes both ways?

Read Tribpots post

It will always be your fault. Disengaging will hurt more than any replies.

Definitely keep sitting on those hands.

Reading a text, laughing at its rediculousness and putting the phone down without responding feels powerful. Even more powerful is blocking, but sometimes it takes a while to get there.

What an awful little weasel!

Good riddance!!

Sit on your hands - don't feed him with any reply!

Imagine the way he keeps checking to see if there is an answer yet.

If you should see him in future and he asks why you didn't respond- just shrug and say it got a bit boring.

Oh yes, definitely ignore as tempting as it is to reply. He will ramp up the insults in an attempt to try to get you to engage because thats what he needs.

Being ignore will drive him fucking crazy! You know how caged big cats prowl around? Thats him right now, waiting for your reply and constantly checking his phone. He may try ringing you so dont answer and dont call him back.

Thank you for the support here, it's a great help to be able to rant here than give him the satisfaction of a reply.

Not responding to him is better for your mental health and will annoy the living fuc out of him! You'd be better off blocking him though because that way you won't ever see the abusive messages that he sends and you won't have to force yourself not to respond to the provocation.

is this guy 'not that bright' OP? that kind of comment about AP is the kind of stuff I hear overgrown chavvy lads saying. You can do way better. The fact he is good in bed is neither here or there, plenty of guys who are and are much nicer and dont use those kinds of expressions.

Honestly? I used to think he was the smartest guy I knew. Cool, funny, sexy.

Now though, I think he's a vain manipulative bulshitter

But apparently he thinks I am a vindictive bitch so I guess it's fair to say neither of us has come out of this well.

Of course, the way you were 'vindictive' was to not forgive him for (a) shagging someone else (b) saying she was better than you in every way except for the circumference of your vagina and (c) announcing that he would continue to shag anyone he wanted to and your job was to accept it and not give him any shit.

It's not worth giving him any headspace. Use your own judgement to decide if your behaviour was reasonable.

Thanks tribpot reading that really helped give my head a wobble.

Well, lets call a spade a spade. You clearly no longer like each other very much at all, but you do like the thought of/shagging each other inspite of it..the very worst of all disengaging situations!! I feel for you.

I read this on MN recently........
I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.

I love that Rightchoiceat46

I'm going to remember it.

Thats a george bernard shaw quote I'm pretty sure 😏

Keep strong...don't reply to his messages as it will drive someone like him mad!!

And think how highly tuned your BS radar will be now...one very good skill to come out of this relationship with!

Onwards and upwards lovely lady!! 💪🏻

Lesis

You got it. Unfortunately our sexual chemistry is off the chart. That's why I've been finding it so difficult to disentangle.

YY to the GBS quote

Ditch the drama and block him. The chemistry may have been off the chart for you, but it clearly wasn't mutual or he wouldn't have been shagging someone else.

He is a twat. Do yourself a massive favour and don't let yourself get dragged down by him.

Do not respond to him. Any response will just fuel his mind games.
Get on with your life. You'll have better sex with someone you love and trust and isn't such a monumental arsewipe.

He's just texted to say that he is sorry for hurting me and that he's like to be friends.

Should I reply and acknowledge but say I don't think it's a good idea or just ignore? I feel like just ignoring it is a little childish.

No, ignore it - being nasty hasn't worked in terms of getting your attention, so now he's trying nice. As soon as you get sucked back in, he'll turn back to nasty. He has no way of knowing whether you've blocked him (which you should) - you're not obligated to respond.

Ignore. Ignore ignore ignore ignore ignore ignore.

And don't worry about being childish.