She's upset and I'm upset, and I want to sort it out asap.
She's stubborn so won't make first move, I'm a person who stews about things, so I won't be able to sleep.
I've been to my parents holiday home for a week, I invited her and her two children to come for a weekend. There was no cost involved to any of us, as my parents don't charge.
From the moment they arrived her 15 year old son was difficult. Wifi was 'crap', Welsh people are stupid, he had a comment for anything anyone else said usually derogatory. Some of the views he had were racist, homophobic and frankly shocking. He told me I was stupid as I didn't vote UKIP and I actually felt inferior as he wanted a debate for everything I said.
He glorified getting pissed and said drugs are cool! All said in front of my 10 year old. It's all hot air and I know he's showing off, but it was embarrassing.
My friend did check him but most of this was said on the sly so she wasn't aware of most of his comments.
Last night, our last night, we had a lovely meal, few drinks and it was great. He wanted a can of cider, she said no and he chucked a major strop. He decided to go for a walk, but didn't come back. It was dark, pouring down and his mum was very upset.
She went to look for him, but couldn't find him. He doesn't know the area, it's dark lanes and weather was awful. We'd both had a drink so couldn't drive, so just as I went to ask a guy across the way if he could take one of us out to look for him in his car, he flounced back in, like nothing was wrong. He'd walked 45 minutes each way to the next town which he'd already been told no to in the day.
Massive argument with his mum, she cried he stropped. I left them to it and said nothing. However he then tried to spark the argument up again when we were all watching tv, and I said enough, it's over, leave it there and have some respect for your mum and me.
This morning he's sulking, she's decided 'we' all pick at him so that's why he's upset. She said I obviously didn't want him to come as I'd text her to say wifi wasn't working and to please tell him so he knew this was the case.
She said I'd undermined her by telling him to stop, I accept it probably wasn't the best idea to say something but my DD was upset with his shouting and I'd had enough.
She said it's just the way he is and we should accept it. I told her I refuse to be abused and ridiculed by a 15 year old and i will defend myself if he starts.
So we've had words and now she's pissed off with me. Do I call her in a few days, say I'm sorry for 'undermining' her 🤔 but maintain I'm still entitled to defend myself when a rude 15 year old is shouting.
Or do I wait for her to contact me, we've been friends for a long time and never fall out so I'd like to get it sorted.
Any advice a appreciated.