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Too scared to ask for a knife and fork

44 replies

Teaspoonlady · 14/08/2017 20:42

Ate my dinner with a teaspoon tonight that i was using for my baby to eat with. I was too scared to ask my husband for a knife and fork incase I get a tirade of verbal abuse. I've currrently fractured my
Foot and I can't do hardly anything. He's doing it all which I'm sure is stressful if you haven't really done it before. But he is being constantly attacking me because I can't do anything. It's unbearable. I don't even ask for a drink in the day because I don't want to set him off. Our son has cerebral palsy which my husband still hasn't accepted yet and I'm also having to cope with that on my own.
Found myself having a panic attack in the bathroom tonight as he told me to get a bath to get rid of my stinking noon. I had a bath yesterday. He's just being vicious for no reason. Apparently I need to get my emotions in check and it's all my problem. Feel absolutely emotionally battered. Just needed
To write to down and get it out

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bilbobaggi · 14/08/2017 20:51

Is there someone you can go to IRL? Please do everything you can to try and get out. Can someone come collect you and DS? Flowers

Chillyegg · 14/08/2017 20:57

Well doesn't he sound like a shitty bastard! How dare he! Sorry but because he has to be a parent and do housework and chores he's being such a vile bastard! Your sat scared to ask for a knife and fork ! I'm fucking incandescent that he's being such a vile twat for doing the work that the majority of women do all the time! And that you your self do! Can you go to your mums for a little bit?

Chillyegg · 14/08/2017 20:58

Do you have friends or anyone that can get you? Don't put up with this crap

QueenNefertitty · 14/08/2017 21:00

This is abusive, darling, regardless of the circumstances. I'm sorry.

What is he like ordinarily? I'm guessing this hasn't just suddenly started up since you fractured your foot... Sad

abc12345 · 14/08/2017 21:00

You need to get out of there or get someone to come and stay so he can fuck off

user1469493736 · 14/08/2017 21:04

Call Women's Aid on 08082000247 ✌

HappyGirl86 · 14/08/2017 21:06

Oh my gosh that's terrible! I know it can be stressful caring for someone when they have injured themselves but he just being abusive to you! Is there anyone else you can stay with?

Shoxfordian · 14/08/2017 21:08

That's really nasty behaviour from him

Is he always this horrible?

Makemineacabsauv · 14/08/2017 21:09

This horrific. As the person above said, call women's aid as soon as you can. Keeping yourself and your DS safe is the important thing here. Take care and good luck.

martiniwini · 14/08/2017 21:10

That's so sad I hope you get the support you need. Flowers

pinkyredrose · 14/08/2017 21:11

Get rid of him. He's making you feel worse not better.

junebirthdaygirl · 14/08/2017 21:11

Thats desperate. Can you go and stay with your parents as no way should you have to endure that? Or could his dm come so at least that might quiten him until you get a plan to get away. You cannot leave yourself in the hands of that vile man.He is showing his true self and its rotten to the core.

GreenTulips · 14/08/2017 21:13

You need to leave, you'll have so much more support., do you have family near by?

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/08/2017 21:27

Has he always been like this? Or is it the stress of your Ds plus you being unable to do much?

Viviennemary · 14/08/2017 21:27

I agree this is horrific and way beyond anything remotely bearable. Phone women's aid. Or if you have family ask if you can stay with them.

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Mustang27 · 14/08/2017 21:28

He said what to you?!? I would have stabbed him with my tea spoon.

Please don't tolerate this, he needs professional help and you deserve better.

Wdigin2this · 14/08/2017 21:28

Get out....now! Go to friends/family, anywhere where you'll both be safe!

SparklingRaspberry · 14/08/2017 21:31

What a horrible vile excuse of a man Angry

I'm so sorry OP. You need to get away from this man for the sake of yourself and your son

QueenNefertitty · 14/08/2017 21:34

@beep ... in no way is that an appropriate response to this thread. Remember there is a real person behind the OPs post and username, who feels desperate enough to post. You should be ashamed.

Buddy14 · 14/08/2017 21:54

OP your post has Made Me well up. I feel so sad for you and wish I could hug you. Do you have family near you? Can you Tell them? Can you Leave him? Do you want to?

Xx

user1469493736 · 14/08/2017 23:30

Did he cause your foot fracture? Hugs. 💐

CookieDoughKid · 14/08/2017 23:33

You need to call women's aid. You are a prisoner to him and he is treating you like an animal. Get him out of your lives it's too miserable and existence!!

user1485639128 · 14/08/2017 23:48

Is he the reason you have a broken foot?

Original poster
Teaspoonlady · 15/08/2017 07:46

Apparently I'm compounding the problem because I was crying about how he is behaving.

@beep my foot is extremely painful. I've torn all the tendons in my foot and fractured it. Every time I get up it's excurtiating pain. I'm currently on co codamol to manage the pain.

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