Apologies if I'm posting in the wrong place. This isn't about a romantic relationship, but a friendship (or ex-friendship!) This seemed the most appropriate place for it but happy to be moved if it's not.
I had been friends with this woman since we were children. We grew up together, we're really close as teens and young adults, went through jobs, boyfriends, bereavements, houses, heartbreaks etc. We're in our early thirties now. There was a group of six of us, all really close.
My friend is an out and out career woman, and is successful. I had my own successful career, not to the level that she reached but perfectly good which I gave up to be a SAHM two years ago. Our other friends had various jobs, we all did different things, earned different amounts (by quite a lot) but rubbed along well. In our mid- twenties we both met men and settled down as did the rest of the group. We all remained close, but obviously didn't see as much of each other as we once did - all normal really.
As they years went on, I noticed she'd distanced herself a little bit. Not entirely, but just sort of like she felt a bit better than the rest of us. She'd be quite, well almost rude occasionally really when it came to pointing out how much 'better' the stuff was that she had (expensive cars, designer clothes etc) but to be honest I never paid much attention. Nor did anyone else really, we were all close enough that people just told her to shut up or teased her about it. Some of the other ladies started having babies and she was always the 'ooh I'm so excited' friend, but clearly wasn't very interested. Fair enough, not everyone is interested in babies and kids.
I was always the one to host 'wine nights' at my house because I was the only one with no kids other than her and she'd moved back home with her parents after her relationship ended. It ended because she cheated on her boyfriend (with a married man!). She always came, joined in etc.
Anyway, I got pregnant and during my pregnancy I saw her once. I got the odd text, and the usual 'I'm so excited' but that was about it. I called and messaged her a few times, but either got no response or a 'we must catch up soon!' but no plans to do so. When DD was born, I got a card through the door and that was it. No contact. I was really unwell after DD was born and messaged after 6 weeks or so apologising for not having been in touch and explaining why. We invited her to DDs christening and she accepted, then text on the morning to say she couldn't come. That was a year ago and I've not heard from her since. She doesn't bother with the others in the group either now, except for one.
This is where my issue comes in. To be honest I was really quite hurt at the way a close friend has basically just disappeared but after trying to make an effort, with a small baby, and getting no where I thought sod it. Not worth getting would up about.
Now the one person she's in touch with has are arranged a night out and she's going. I feel quite awkward - this is someone I've known all my life but who hasn't behaved very kindly to me or the others in the last few years. I don't know whether to just be civil, tell her how much she has pissed me off or just ignore her.
Thoughts?