What would you think?

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Getting married next Friday. My other half can't take his eyes off someone else. I shouldn't, should I?

Who is the someone else?

Have you spoken to him about it?

She's a lovely lady in our village. But whenever we're all together, he's looking at her and not me. When one of his friends was interested in her, and my dp was drunk, he said lucky him. It's stuck with me.... :-(

Anything else that's triggered alarm bells except for those two things? (Not saying they are acceptable but alone I don't feel are cancel the wedding territory)

I have spoken to him. We're not married yet and I just feel he should eyes for me?

I don't look at anyone else with longing.....

Is this sudden or has it been going on for a long time?

Are you genuinely concerned about his commitment to you or is this a case of cold feet?

It's not sudden. No. Been burying my head in the sand

Id say if it bothers you this much you should at least postpone?? I know some people really don't mind their partners fancying other people but it's not something I'm comfortable with either.

If he had the chance to cheat with her would he?

And what did he say when you brought it up?

Mandate, I'm not comfortable with it.

And there's cheating physically and emotionally. No real difference in my mind. Emotionally is worse

When I've brought it up he says that I'm imagining it. She doesn't want him. But that doesn't mean I should settle, if I'm not what he wants?

I agree. Don't go ahead with it. You are posting here. You know something isn't right - even if it's the fact that it's not right enough.

Is she stunningly beautiful?

I do accept that my dh thinks other women are beautiful but he would never make a comment like the one above.

Luckily we don't associate with anyone beautiful for him to ogle

I think you need to know your own worth. He is wrong with the comments but are you feeling threatened or jealous of this woman

I would want to be the apple of my fiancé's eye. And I trust my gut. Both of those together would add up to a "NO".

Oh for fucks sakes, people! This is NOT about the other woman and whether she's beautiful or not. This is about how the OP is feeling, and that should always be enough.

I'd end it now.
i'd rather be single forever than be his second choice.

Did he actually say she doesn't want him? Fuck that, I wouldn't be second choice either

Very difficult, OP.
There's a difference, I think, between "phoar, she's fit" (acceptable, to me) and "I would choose her, given the chance". Do you feel that ultimately he would choose you, above all others, even if he finds others attractive sometimes?

Some ppl are enchanting to look at, doesn't mean they have a decent personality. Sounds like u're low on confidence OP. He wants to marry you. Talk to him now & im sure you'll feel better 💐

His answer should have been "oh I don't want her I want you!"

His answer was "she doesn't want me"

I'd have told him where to go at that very moment OP! He sounds like an insensitive prick who sees you as the runner up prize. I'm sorry that sounds harsh but that's how I'd feel if my OH said the same to me.

I wouldn't marry him.

If DH had said how he was stuck with me I'd tell him he isn't anymore, as I'm gone.

You deserve better than some gawker with no balls.

She doesn't want me

... And if she did?

Don't marry him.

If he actually said "she doesn't want me", I would end it.