What would you think?

[Concentrateonthegood]

Getting married next Friday. My other half can't take his eyes off someone else. I shouldn't, should I?

Urgh he sounds like a prick - at least you have been given notice before you tie yourself to him legally. Get rid. You deserve better.

You are having doubts and there is another that he has some longing for, I would not go through with a marriage now if I had any doubt. With the other person even if they are not interested in them its not with it, chances are if some other came along they pined for and they were open to him you would end up very let down. I had doubts about my first marriage and they were right, I was tempted to do a runner but got caught up in all the all the money spent. That was the worst decision I ever made, please consider the little voice that is making you think of cancelling and you should never feel like you are the second choice.

You know in your heart you can't go through with this, you deserve better than to be second best. Take care x

I wouldn't go ahead OP.

Oh dear. I've a lot to think over.

When we've discussed it previously, he's been reassuring but being me, I remember the one thing that he shouldn't have said.

He's great most of the time. We're great most of the time. Just my cold feet. And him goggling the same woman.

I've no issue with him finding other women attractive. I find other men attractive. It's just it's one in particular that he can't stop looking at.

I am not fantastically pretty, I'm very average. My DH thinks I'm fantastic, gorgeous and that he is the luckiest man alive to be married to me. That is still true after 10 years of marriage. If your DP see you as a back up plan or just the best he can do (for now) then YOU are selling yourself short of who you could be with. Only going on what you've put here, I think you need a serious chat with him about whether he feels he is settling for what he can get with you or if he has only some slightly tedious goggling at women tendencies that he needs to grow out of fast as its disrespectful (to you and her), creepy and childish.

What if one day she decides she does want him. .?
Likely when he is a married man and not available. . ..
Walk away. . .
Or run. .
Cancel the wedding and ltb to his longing. . .

Finding it hard to trust him is a very good reason not to go ahead. At the worst, you were right not to trust him and he does cheat on you. At best the bad feeling will be constant and your relationship will self destruct.

him staring and staring and staring at another woman and longing for only her......
you're mad to go through with this wedding. please cancel it and ditch this loser.

Only marry someone who makes you feel good, wanted and enough. He's not that man.

You're living what would be one of my worst nightmares OP.
I do feel sorry for you.

I have quite a few divorced friends. Nearly all of them said they doubted on their wedding day but carried on because they thought it was too late or they loved the person. Postpone. Those doubts won't go away because you have a ring on your finger.