Lovebombing and gaslighting

[Solero]

I am convinced I am being subjected to both by my husband but I am doubting myself. I have done loads of internet reading recently about both as forms of emotional abuse and as I look back over our 7 years together I can identify with a lot of the information. However I am an anxiety sufferer on 40mg of citalopram everyday and I wonder whether its all in my head. ( He has intimated this in the past when I have tried to raised concerns with him)
I would love to hear any 'survivor' stories.......

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I am not this person's partner, former partner, stalker or "cunty husband" as some have put, I find it offensive.

I am only trying to provide a potentially different perspective, I can see that's unwelcome so I will bow out gracefully.

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In reality people are complicated and act in certain ways because of various reasons both historic and or current.

No. People act in certain ways because they choose to. Nothing "makes" people behave in a certain way. Nothing forces people to continue shitty patterns of behaviour but their own revolting, selfish need to beat the emotional shit out of others. A functioning adult is in full control of their words, actions and choices. It's simply easier to blame their past, their childhood, their history. That way they don't have to look inwards and see the true extent of their despicable behaviours.