My husband hit me tonight

[IceWithASlice1]

I don't know what to do, my heart doesn't have the energy any longer, it is just broken. I have tried so hard.
I'm ok. I know I need to leave. I just don't know how.

I hope you're ok OP! It's a horrible situation that you're in.
He sounds like a nasty piece of work and no mother should ever be put down and told she's a rubbish mum when you know in your heart your not!
Is this the first time he's hit you, or has this happened on more than one occasion?
You do need to leave for safety of you and your DC, are you able to go to your mums for now or something?

Hi! Just seen this. Has he gone to work? I was thinking, if you told the organisers of your baby group what has happened, the would surely help you: let you use their phone, look after baby while you ring etc. There's great advice above, please take it. If Women's Aid offer you a Freedom Course, do take it. Best wishes (((hugs)))

I remember my ex following me around the house and me in the corner of the sofa while he leaned in to me aggressively (with our 5 month old daughter in my arms). When I pushed him away (18 stone man) I scratched his neck. He took photos of it as evidence of my abuse!!!!

I am going through the police process for this after being hit and kicked by now (obvs) ex bf/dp on Saturday night and Sunday morning.

Please don't be scared of reporting. The officer who spent 4 hours at my house yesterday was so nice and explained everything.

If you have any bruising or injury please take a photo. I did just after the worst punch I got and it will help so much in this case.

Look after yourself x

Good luck and stay safe

Hope you're ok this morning OP, please get somewhere safe today, there is help out there and you don't need to go through this alone

Thank you all. x
He is asleep on the sofa. That means he isn't going to work today. I went in to get something and he stirred then rolled over and went back to sleep.
Makes me sick that such a bastard can sleep away without a care in the world.

There has been a few incidences of pushing and grabbing several months back. Threats that he will "make me sorry" if I take DC. This is the first time he's hit me.
Shit. I actually feel so silly when I write these things and realise just how much there has been. Things he has passed off as me being "difficult" for having a little PND.

debbs you have described my evening to a T. He hit me because I wouldn't let him hold DC or sleep with her as he was so drunk.

I slept two hours. I'm too drained for baby group. I told my friend we'd rowed and I was thinking of leaving.

topbitch
I'm so sorry you are going through the same. Thank you for messaging me.
Im glad you are safe now.
These early days will be tough for us but happier times will come. Xx

You poor thing.

Can you summon up your energy and just go to that baby group. It's an escape for you and there will be supportive people there. Doesn't matter if you arrive late.
Don't be trapped with him all day.

Go to the baby group to get out of the house. Then take yourselves off out for the day, even if just to coffee shops. It'll give you space to think and make plans

I really needed that few hours of sleep before DC woke up again or I would struggle today. I can never nap in the day.
He is awake and acting like nothing has happened. Absolutely crazy!
I'm going to head out for coffee and make some calls and start finding a new home. Meeting a friend later on too.

Good. Get out of there.

Hand hold OP, really really hope you get out, when he's sleeping try and start packing some bits in a suitcase and hide it under a bed, essentials inc passport, baby birth certificate etc and bits for baby you need, it may be you wait until he's at work tomorrow, but if thats the case it gives you time to get yours and babies things together. Hope you have somewhere to go

Have you told someone irl, if you can get friends to help. Tell him your at baby group etc and get a free 30 mins with a solicitor or ring women's aid

Op im so sorry he has done this to you. Do yourself and your daughter a favour and leave, it will be hard but save yourself from a crap life for you and her x

GOOD LUCK! You are so brave, strong and should be very proud of yourself right now.

You sound like you know what you need to do OP. He sounds like a despicable man.

Good luck.

Get back to the police & file a report re him hitting you. Ask to be referred to the Domestic Violence Support Team. Explain that he intimidated and threatened you into silence last night. This police report will be taken into consideration when deciding what access he will be permitted to have with your daughter. Get as much evidence on record with Police, DV team & your GP as you can.

@IceWithASlice1 I am so very sorry to hear you have experienced this. I have been there and it hurts a lot! I had a panic attack just when he was hitting me and I remember I locked myself in the bathroom and I tried to call the national domestic abuse line for more than 30 times just to talk to someone but they were occupied. He was just knocking on the door apologising for fear I'd call the police!

Are you a foreigner or just your family living abroad? Do you have any close friends nearby? And by 'close friends' I mean people who would gladly offer accommodation for more than a month and great hospitality to you and your child? Can your job be transferred somewhere else if you maybe work in a big company?

I found many people willing to go for a coffee with me, mostly because they are nosy, but after a while they disappeared. So please no matter what you do, make sure you are safe and that you have a VERY strong network support. It's not going to be an easy journey and he will do loads of things to get you back. So be sure for your decision and fight for it!

I am here anytime you need to chat or message me.
Good luck! xx

Op I left DV when my baby was 6 months old when ExH strangled me.

It was so bloody hard but we are out the other side now 4 years on.

Remember this is the most dangerous time.
Report to police. Please. I've just been through the family court fighting to stop him having joint custody. You need as much of this evidenced as possible.

You are strong, you've got this

I left DV with an 11 mo baby. Fortunately I had somewhere to go - but if I hadn't I'd have gone to a shelter. Leaving and getting DC out of that horrible toxic and dangerous environment was the best thing I ever did. Keep posting OP x

And your husband will be sleeping on the streets tonight!

Utter cocksniff. I hope you are in a safe place now OP

@CarrieBradshaw85 That would be so good!!!

Mooey is right. I didn't support charges at the time, and he had money, so got 50:50 with my 2 under 4 year olds through thr family courts. You need to protect ypurself from being controlled via "co-parenting" for tge next 18 years.

How are you OP? Did you manage to get anything organised?