Verbal abuse

[user1499288566]

Does anyone else have a bf or hubby that talks to them badly? Doesn't listen and don't show any interest in you as a person any more?

Just me then lol

Be patient!

I haven't myself but there's plenty here who unfortunately have.

What's happening to you?

I did have.
He is now my exh. .

You deserve more. .
And every single Mner will agree with me.

Now start believing it yourself.

No but I have watched what it does to others :(

What does he say to you? ...

And does he talk very differently to you if he has an audience? That's pretty key I think...

You may find they have exes that behaved that way!

I also had one that is now my ExH.

Sometimes I'm lonely as a single mum, but never as lonely as I was in my marriage.

No. He'd be an Ex if he did that. Same if I did that to him.

He looks at me at times in the most hateful way , he don't look at me when I talk to me , he makes me feel like I bore him when I talk, he don't have interetst in me as a person anymore, he always says stop moaning stop going on like it's me like I'm a nag, and when I crack and get upset and say why are you here why are you with me , you don't listen to me you seem to hate being round me you talk to me like crap , he scews his face up never looks at me and says stuff like what you on about, stop going on at me I don't have to talk all the time, sometimes I just want to be silent, or I'm not bothered about things you say it's women's crap meaning women's banter small talk ect, I just feel small pathetic weak like I'm worth nothing not fun not worth a full conversation why do ppl do this I'm not making him be with me so why does he treat me like I'm worth nothing

Why exactly are you with him? Can you leave?
I know exactly what you mean though. My ex h acted like he hated me most of the time - he was an abusive bastard (still is im sure only not to me!)

You need to remove yourself from him. He will scramble your brain, make you doubt yourself (as you are).

How long have you been with him?

Be about 4 years now, we have a 4 year old I don't want him to have her alone as he never has but also I don't trust him enough so that will be next thing wish I could totally cut the cord but this is it I guess

I did. He's now an ex husband. I now have a partner who cares, is loving, treats me as a equal and with respect.

Ltb.

Consider it this way..... Would you find it acceptable for your daughter boyfriend to treat her that way in the future? She'll recognise his behaviour as normal and it really isn't.

How do I go about all this where it don't spoil my future and how can I best work it for my daughter I'm all she known he has been in and out all her life and she has mild disability I don't think he capable by him self and not prepared to test it , I'm happy in future when she confidently talking to tell me she wants to go and for me to call and ask how her day is going ect that will be only thing to put me at ease till then I'm not happy to drop her off with him n leave ect

Do you really think hes going to bother with her?

Part of me thinks for bit to get at me or act like the loving dad but think it would die off

It won't last more than a couple of weeks and you know it. The reality of looking after a child will very quickly outweigh the fun of pissing you off.

How often does he choose to look after her on his own now? Like, hey user I haven't seen much of DD today, how about I take her to the park and do her bedtime?

Lol never hun

Things are rough with my partner last few weekends have been awful, he only has weekends with Me and his daughter as he works away all week, yet he carries on like everything is fine even tho he been vile towards me, he called tonight to ask how i was ect he sounded mega happy to be talking to me (joke) I said to him what's going on with us , there isn't an ounce of love since u left again, last few weekends have been awful, he jumped in to say i haven't got time to talk about this shit right now, I said this shit ? He said yeah , I said nice to no it's important to you , will leave you to it then just had A cold bye off him , I don't get any of it , he says he loves me what's to be with me wants no one else etc, but then he gets it and he is shit, last time we made up I begged him don't hurt me or let me down anymore this has to be it now, I said I carnt take the upset anymore so if you carnt do that then let me go, he promised everything yet here I am again, pissed off upset hurting gutted and he carries on like we all okay

Pack up his shit while he's away and get the locks changed. He doesn't want to be with you, he treats you like garbage and you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel happy.

He doesn't 'do' love the same way as you.Nothing you say will change him into a decent man as he doesn't have respect for you.

It's unlikely to be you..he would treat any woman like this.

You just need to decide how much pain you can tolerate and what is your final straw.

It's actually easier if you separate when your child is younger than much older so if you plan on leaving do so sooner rather than later.

My ex husband did all the things you describe.

My second husband looks at me adoringly, sends me loving texts 'just because', buys me surprise gifts, laughs with me, makes me feel loved every single second.

My heart feels like it's in bits , I no it sounds pathetic but I some times just don't no how I got here, I have never been bothered about settling down or kids, I have only dated one other person, I just met him and we clicked, I fell for him hard , we got on great , it's looking back which breaks my heart even as I write this , I loved him so deeply I thought he felt same I thought he would be my everything, I got preg year after being together unplanned but was happy it felt right, half way through my preg it just fell apart, I never new someone could lie so much be so cruel cold heartless it just breaks my heart, I feel like he has stolen my innocence robbed me mugged me off all the above, again I no it sounds stupid but I just carnt put into words what it's done to me , I even carry guilt for my child I look at her and all I want to say is I'm so so sorry I brought u in to this and gave you a dad like this, what cuts me deeper now is to think iv got to try and entertain the idea of him being in my child's life , even tho he has never been there never supported me in medical stuff that's gone on the pain he has caused me meaning my daughter didn't get my 100% at a young age, now I'm ment to think about letting him play the big man like he cares? That just don't sound right to me it feels unjust

Silly isn't it how the thought of letting go of something shit can still play with your heart