How do I tell my bf to get a shower?

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Honestly, it should just be "hey, you need a shower". But he's SO bloody stubborn. Last time I suggested he needed a shower, he didn't have one for another 2 days. He has one about once a week, and honestly he smells pretty grim. I've even gone of giving him BJs cause it's especially bad down there. He's not BJ motivated, so I can't try that tack. He showered regularly when we started dating! He's basically just a lazy slob, but absolutely brilliant in the other areas.

So how do I convince a stubborn guy to wash, without actually insulting him?

Meh. With my teenage boys I tell them they stink and they need a shower.

Honestly? Tell him he needs to have a shower as he stinks to high heaven. I really wouldn't bother about offending him as he's clearly offending you every minute you spend together with his stench.
How do you go anywhere together? I'd find it so embarrassing!

Tell him he stinks. He's a bloke he wont care
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I think you're going to tell him that he stinks, and that everyone can smell him. Do you think there's a reason why he isn't showering? Can be a sign of potential MH problems; but, yes, he might just be a slob. It's not very sexy, and not respectful towards you.

If DH needs a shower I just tell him he needs a shower because he's stinky.

Not sure what you're supposed to do if someone's childish enough to pointedly not wash for several days in response.

No amount of greatness in other areas makes up for BO. It's not something you should be even trying to manage, he's an adult who thinks others should put up with his stink. Just no.

I wouldn't want to share a bed with someone who washed once a week.
No chance of a BJ

I am a bit of a slob but I still shower every day!

Omg you fucking stink, are you going to take a shower

Tell him he smells like an amenity tip.
Tell him no physical contact until he is clean.
Tell him clean is very sexy and appealing to women.
Buy an air freshener and use liberally.
Suggest a shower together?

Stop having such low standards in men and walk away?

The only time I've ever had to tell my GROWN ADULT husband to shower is when I've been pregnant and his natural scent has made me feel sick. He didn't need a shower though because he showers everyday and is clean.
Point being, you shouldn't have to "tell" an adult to practise good hygiene. You're not his mother. Let him go.

Oh that's grim! I guess you have to tell him how much it upsets your senses and hope he cares enough to change.

Your a braver (thirsty) woman then me, I could not go down there with salty ball stench

Good luck x

Just dump him. He's selfish and disgusting. You can't put your face near his reeking genitals, but will have them inside you? Come on. Other people will smell it as well and think you're desperate.

Stop having such low standards in men and walk away?

No need for the question mark Bertie

Just tell him , he's being disrespectful to you and other people he comes into contact with.

Dirty boy !

Just dump him. The vast majority of men do not need reminded on basic hygiene.

OMG - why are you staying with someone who only showers once a week??

Sounds grim. I suspect you have to act like his mother in other areas of life too, e.g. Housework
Just dump him

Urghhhh how can you share a bed with this man? I couldn't be with someone with such nasty personal hygiene.

If you aren't living together - when he texts say 'only if you've showered'

My teens smell - I tell them - I'd rather tell them than they hear it from everyone else

Ugh how can you
I wouldn't waste my time

Back when I was OLD, I met a woman for a second date. She was very nice, but I smelled stale sweat as soon as I met her. That was it for me, a complete dealbreaker.
I just couldn't get past a stinky partner.

Just dump him. Why even waste your time with someone who had normal standards of hygeine when you were first together (how long have you been dating?) and now can't be arsed to be clean for you! How disgusting and disrespectful. As for no longer giving him BJs because he's so stinky down there, seriously, don't even get close to him until he showers. Please tell me that when you do have sex (euww) that you use a condom otherwise his dirt will be coming off inside you! Dump him and raise your standards of the men you date is my suggestion. Dirty bastard!

Are you dating my EXH?
I can sympathise, my EXH stopped washing during the last year of our marriage (after moving into the spare room) Fortunately I didn't get too close to him after that point! I did mention it tactfully and was accused of being horrible to him! We've been divorced for over a year now, he's getting married again but DDs who see him occasionally tell me the smell is worse than ever! I am assuming the OW has no sense of smell! I used his poor hygiene as a reason for unreasonable behaviour. I agree with others that you need to have a serious discussion about this, if he still doesn't take you seriously then I think you need to get out If he's too lazy to have a wash and keep himself clean then this doesn't bode well for other areas of his life in the future!