not agreeing with grounds for divorce - do I just let it go?

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H is divorcing me. It's an unwanted divorces for me. He sent me a list of my 'unreasonable behaviour' which he is planning to use and, frankly, it's a bunch of lies. They make me look financially and emotionally abusive. I am not. It's taken out of context and not truthful. I am so upset and it suddenly feels so raw again.

Do I just let it go or is there a way to challenge them? He is apparently filling in all the paperwork himself and will pay. No shared assets, that's all sorted.

inkydinky similar happened to me.

x and I used to swing together. he is now divorcing me for adultery. to be fair he has seen me being shagged by another bloke so I couldn't exactly deny it, but he was shagging said bloke's wife at the time! in the meantime X is now in another relationship and I am single. Its a stupid system.

the other stupid thing is that if you admit to adultery then the other party can pursue you for costs. so I didn't tick the box to say I admitted it, I just left it blank. I m hoping that doesn't cause a problem.

I admitted it nearlyfree17 but had prior agreement that he would bear all costs. I'm not sure what happens if you don't agree. Good luck to you and the OP. Having a crappy lying ex sucks but is surely better than a crappy lying H.

Well asking him to change a few things hasn't gone down well. I guess I will just have to bite thd bullet and agree to them.

You could ask him to withdraw his petition. You could then list his "unreasonable behaviour" on a petition filed by you. Make sure he is prepared to pay for your proceedings. Alternatively get him to water down his allegations of your unreasonable behaviour, or better still suggest some your self. You know your own faults.