What a turn off

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Ok ladies and gentlemen what has been your biggest turn off whilst getting to know a new person or partner?

Mine was definitely 'I couldn't be in the same room whilst a lass was giving birth' I still can't get over this

How 1940' we he

Internet dating, first IRL meet. Some years ago. I was 23. Arrived at the agreed spot. He was not like his photo.

Me: "You don't look much like your picture."

Him: "Oh, well, I'd better come clean I suppose... that's my nephew in the photo. I assumed your pic was a fake too, har har. Shall we just go for a drink anyway?"

Me: "..."

My pic wasn't fake. We didn't have a drink. Always felt sorry for nephew.

I was out for a drink with my best friend one night, think I was around 19 and her much older boyfriend came to join us with one of his mates. We spent the evening chatting away as my friend and her BF were having a massive row, and I gave him a lift home as I was driving. We spent about 3 hours sat in the car talking about anything and everything, and I was enchanted by him. He asked to go out but said he couldn't make that weekend, could we do the weekend after and he took my phone number. Next morning, I hadn't slept and was floating along on cloud 9 when my mate said she was really shocked at my going off with him given that he was getting married to his long term girlfriend at the weekend and hadn't he mentioned it .............. . She was horrified when I said we'd spent quite a few hours in my car and almost DTD . Turns out he had kids and had been living with his gf for years!!! He had the cheek to ring me after too.....I think he genuinely thought I'd be up for it!!

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Another turn off and personally the biggest for me is 'send me a picture' or the random dick picture blocked!!

HarrietKettleWasHere that sounds like my ex!! 😂😂 bokerama 😷😷😷😷

Dies over testing put people off?

I once went out with a lad who liked to think he was a model. He wasn't. He was okay looking but nothing amazing. But oh did he love himself! I let it go on because I was bored and in need of company as it had been so long.

He wore really expensive smart clothes when I met him. Then again when we met up again. And the same every single time I saw him. Turns out he just wore the exact same outfit every single day and sadly, that didn't mean it was washed in between. He absolutely STUNK at one point. I actually sent him for a bath and threw his designer shirt, jeans and socks through the wash. I told him I didn't care if he wore normal non designer stuff (I own NOTHING with a label!) but apparently these were his faves and he only wanted to wear them. I finally gave him the boot when I realised I couldn't get the gross smell off my couch after he visited. Feet and BO. - NOT envy

*does over texting put people off
And what would you class as too much?

I came away from one date feeling actually nauseous with exhaustion after he talked at me so fast it was like rapid gunfire, for two hours. He may have been nervous but even so...

Another date was fascinating - I came away from it knowing all about Bristol Rugby team's ground changes in the last ten year and exactly how the middle management system of a double glazing company works. Urgh.

Ooh I have been on some cracking dates in my time...I am surprised I am married some days as I met some 'interesting' men in my single days...

Went to a student ball with a male friend. At the end of the evening, he confessed that he fancied me and that time was not on his side, before pulling out a large wholesale outer of condoms from under his bed...his father was a pharmacist who had given them to him and they were coming up to best-before date...romance is still alive it seems.

I went on a date with a guy I really liked. Things were getting hot and heavy, and then he tells me he has trouble with erectile dysfunction. No problem I say, sympathetically. He then pulls out a Viagra pill and says he would like to try it...he bought it for use with an ex, but she dumped him for another man so would I mind...it is funny how quickly a headache can emerge...

Boyfriend came on a works leaving party for me as I was getting a new job. He got roaring drunk, swore at my boss and threw up all over a colleague...refused to speak to him again as I was mortified.

So many more 'bargains' over the years...maybe we should write a collective mumsnet guide to worst dates ever...

See, I love loads of texting/messaging! I love to talk and that's how I get to know someone.

My major turnoff was a guy who had kids (which didn't bother me) using the phrase "l'il peeps" to describe them.

I like texting but at work I understand everyone is busy (I work in Maternity) so when I get the chance I'll reply one lad text me several times the same text then said I was ignoring him then I got the opposite end of the scale and no text from someone else
I can't win lol

Oh I had a date, met him online. In his pics, he was hot!
Got to messaging and he seemed ok. A bit over polite? Anyway, he called me and it was like talking with my grandfather. He was so... over the top 'har har har oh jolly good'. I can't explain it properly.
I didn't want to be too hasty, after all, I'd seen his pics. Again... hot!
So we meet up. And it's immediately clear that he angles his photos so that his glasses don't look like an inch thick. I don't care, I wear contacts or glasses and mine are like bottle caps unless I have them thinned. But his face is different from a normal angle too... not... hot. But ok, we went to the pub and on the way in this guy merrily waves his pint around, stumbles and says something like 'whoopsy daisy!'
My date starts angrily swearing at him about being a drunken fucking idiot. Having just given guff to me on the way in about how he treats ladies. I sat down anyway (in for a penny and all that..) and had a chat. He honestly was not a very nice person. Seemed to think that as a single parent I'd be grateful for anyone showing attention to me to stop me being 'lonely'. 🙄🙄
He had some dodgy racist and xenophobic views too so I got up and left. I literally ran away from him. Jumped on the first bus I could and didn't look back.
He messaged me later asking when our next date would be...

I had (upon reflection) quite an unhinged girlfriend from a batshit family.

We were in town & she'd arranged to meet her Mum outside a jewellers. We met and they promptly started trying on engagement rings. Lots of hints etc. It was fucking weird.

We'd only been together 6 months. WTAF?!

When I was about 16 I went out with a much older man (he was 18!) and felt very sophisticated and grown up. He was gorgeous.

After an hour of walking in the park he pulled me towards him and we kissed, which was rather nice... until he licked my face. Yep, he dragged his big fat slobbery tongue from my chin to my forehead, and when he was done I had his saliva dribbling down the side of my face and dripping onto my coat.

It was VILE. I just ran away. And then he asked my sister out and did the same to her.

Stealing. We were a few months into going out and walking down a shopping street and he said wait here, ducked into a shop and came out with a cutesy door hanging in the shape of a heart and said 'I just nicked this for you'!! He was in his fucking twenties, not a stupid teenager. Took a while to get over that one!

"I'm just going to the little boys room". Not said in a jokey way.

I once had a date with a guy who smelt like the Morrison's meat counter. A weird description I know, but the only way I can describe it..

Surprisingly, I discovered the smell of raw meat was a turn off.

I met a very hot Irish guy online and on our first date we ended up sinking a few bottles of wine in a bar. I hadn't been looking at the time as we were too busy kissing and then I noticed I was going to miss my last train home from London. I was so annoyed with myself as I didn't really want to crash at his but I didn't have a lot of choice.

He was sweet and made me some food and tea and tried to make me feel comfortable. I told him I would stay over but we weren't going to DTD. Got into bed and he was wearing this gross vest. He also stank of BO and kept trying it on and telling me you your body wants this you are so ready for me. I kept thinking we are not in some R Kelly Video now!! Idiot!!! I managed to keep him at bay and barely slept a wink and as soon as it was light I got my stuff and ran for the hills. Bad personal hygiene every time puts me off!!!

My friend had a total shocker too. She had been seeing a guy for a few weeks, think it was his 3rd time staying over. They'd had a heavy night out drinking. She woke up around 4am thinking why is the bed wet, has someone spilled some water......Nope you guessed it he had peed the bed. She asked him if thats what he had done and he just said oh yeah sorry that happens sometimes when I drink a lot and then he continued to lay in it, like it was no big deal! She was so disgusted, changed all the bed and had to throw her brand new mattress away!

I had one date where he told me about all the weddings he'd been to, including rating them out of 100 - he never stopped to draw breath and I couldn't get a word in so after 45 mins I got up and left.
On another first date the guy told me where all his designer clothes and his watch were from and how much they cost, and asked me if I could get the next week off work to go on holiday to Spain with him. Umm... No.
Another guy announced that he hated tea and coffee at which point I went right off him.
Another was lovely but tried to hold hands with me and he had really sweaty clammy hands - gross.
Ah the joys of OLD!

This wasn't me, but my friend...and It wasn't really a turn-off either but a funny date story.

He took her out to a fancy bar and they ordered some food, it was the first date and he was feeling a little nervous, she was quite sure of herself and she apparently lunged at him and gave him a full on snog. What she didn't realise is that her hair caught fire on a candle on the table and when she pulled away he quickly hit her repeatedly with the menu to try and put the flames out! He said she ran off to the loos leaving the bar area smelling like burnt hair with everyone looking over!

Their food came out and he sat for about half an hour waiting for her and sent someone in to check on her! she eventually stormed out of the bathroom, grabbed her belongings and walked straight out of the bar never to be seen or heard from again!!

It wasn't my friends fault her hair caught fire! haha!