Meeting guys online for casual sex

[FiftyPoundNote]

Hi,

I'd like to read some people's experiences of hooking up with people online.

I've been messaging a guy I like but I'm feeling a bit apprehensive as he's a stranger and all.

I would have nothing to do with strangers. The people we know are bad enough

Go for it, what could possibly go wrong

Is anyone going to answer with serious advice or am unjust going to get dicks replying?

How do you plan on keeping yourself safe?

I haven't done this but would consider it if I were single.

Suggest usual safety rules of meeting in a public place first, telling a friend where you're going and arranging a time to check in and let them know you're ok. Take condoms and a fully charged phone.

Yes I think you are going to get Dicks replying. Because what you are planning on doing is stupid. Completely stupid but hey if that's you carry on

The sex board might be better for this question.

Be careful, have boundaries and stick to them, never take them home or go to their place until you've built a real life rapport. Make sure you have an exit strategy and a safety contact. If he objects to you texting a safety contact then he's not a safe person to be around.

I have all these things in place and I was still caught out recently by a wrong un, he put something in my drink (mdma I think). It's a risky business and I don't even do casual first date sex.

I'm going to be completely honest with you, I've done this a few times. . I personally don't see anything wrong with it as long as you're being safe and no one is getting hurt.

Make sure you're comfortable and the moment you're not just say and stop. 💖

Personally I wouldn't as chances are it'll be shit, however I would go to a swingers club. Men seem much more keen to impress there.

sonlypuppyfat It's no different to meeting a man in a bar and having a one night stand, I'm sure lots of MNers have done that.

Why don't you agree to meet for coffee/drinks first with expectations on both sides it's just for getting to know each other. Then once you've decided you like/fancy them you can arrange to hook up somewhere neutral like a hotel.

It's basically online dating without pretence. Be careful, take usual precautions, meet socially first. There are an awful lot of married/lying/blokes who shag other blokes unprotected (but I'm totes not gay) out there so be very very picky

Meet in a public place
Tell a friend where you are
Get a picture of licence plate number

Always have a plan to get out of you feel unsafe.

It's not all weirdos, there are some decent guys out there looking for a fwb type thing

Are you not going to mind if he's married?

Because you can to some extent keep yourself safe sexually - but you still might end up shagging a liar who's cheating on his spouse

People do it all the time with tinder don't they? Practically the use for that if you can't be bothered to go to the pub. Just be safe. There are lots of dodgy people who use these sites too.

Laurie - that could happen with someone you meet socially too.

How is the woman (in this case) responsible for the cheating man's behaviour, if he's told her he's single and she's accepted that in good faith?

I met someone online with the intention of doing this and ended up marrying him 😂

heart snap!

Where are they having sex though? Meeting a stranger, having a quick drink and then either inviting them back to yours or going back to theirs sounds really bloody dangerous to me.

I assume if you're 'dating' instead of just hooking up Kate there may be conversation, meeting friends, adding each other on Facebook - just in general dating openly.

Obviously this doesn't preclude some arsehole faking an entire identity and lying for months

But it's less likely to be a cheater than a very casual encounter

And no, the OP wouldn't be responsible (nor her doing, not her problem) but I wouldn't want to do that. And most people wouldn't I don't think.

Exactly the same safety rules apply as for "vanilla" dating. The site I use also has a verification system where people leave feedback on each other. Ok there is the possibility of fakes, but these can be spotted. As a single woman you will be overwhelmed with messages and can take your pick of men.

I met a perfectly nice and very good looking man on there, we met in Costa Coffee for an initial "social". Next time, he came to my place with a bottle of wine and bunch of flowers for me. We had a pleasant chat, a couple of drinks then went to bed. All absolutely civilised and very good fun. Would recommend.

Dp and I met one of those sites. OP, take your time chatting with this man. If there's any hint of something 'off' don't meet him.

Ignore the cynical posters. Providing you're sensible It's much safer than meeting some random in a club or pub and having a drunken one night stand.

I don't see this as that different to any kind of online dating. I don't date with the intention of finding a husband, I'm looking for chemistry and if I want to have sex then I will.
Do the normal things you would do with online dating, chat first, meet in public first to see if you fancy them, then be safe and take precautions.