There are also nice men out there.

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Occasionally I will see posts, where people wonder if all mumsnetters have crappy husbands or partners, at there are so many complaints about them. No, we don't it is just that it is kind of boring to read about other people's nice husbands. So anyway: my husband is really lovely. He does have flaws just like everybody else, but the total sum of him is: Lovely. One of my friends mentioned that I am always saying: "What I really like about DH is.... " and then it is something different I mention every time. And he also thinks I am lovely, so we are lucky people. See? Boring to read about.

Super. I'm pleased for you. Do you know any single ones?????

Not boring no, I'm newly single after a long time and hope some day to meet a good man.
But people post for advice about their shit situations here in relationships.

Does he have a brother?

Rumour has it there are nice women 'out there' too, maybe as rare as a yetti?

Does he have a brother?

Hey FP, I was there first

I ike to hear about the good ones too - Enjoy!!

what stevie said :)

I'd like to think that it gives people hope that they don't need to settle for less. It suggests that women don't need to settle for frankly waster useless men who contribute nothing to their lives. My partner and I have raised two boys who are now 16 and 18 and we've drilled it into them to be loyal and kind and generous .. and they are. It's a lesbian household - not sure if that makes a difference but I'd like to think that for women who are in bad relationships, those good boys are out there. If not, there are also good women out there!

I worry that if women only ever hear about the essays of space men they'll settle for less than they deserve, so thank you OP for your post.

My DH is a wonderful man, he pulls more than his weight around the house and with our children, and in the 10 years we have been together he has brought out the best in me and I in him. We both have a lot left to learn about, and I've no doubt we will keep pushing each other to be our best.

'Essays of space men' actually conveys the general meaning of what I meant to type, which was 'waste of space men'.

Mine is lovely too. Except when I have PMS, when he needs poking with a fork.
He does one thing which would have MN screaming Red Flag, This is Abusive, LTB. He is controlling, in that when he is stressed/ exhausted, he thinks he needs to control everything. I usually laugh at him and point it out, then he looks sheepish and goes for a nap.

I'm very lucky to have a wonderful DH second time around (first marriage was emotionally abusive). He loves to cook, so does all the cooking and food shopping (I do the laundry and ironing and we both hate cleaning, so pay for it to be done!), is incredibly supportive and we love each other to bits. We'll have been married six years next month, been together 12 years and known each other for 16 years, I honestly can't imagine life without him.

My boyfriend is also lovely-he isn't perfect as no one is, but mainly he loves me, and takes care of me when I need it, and after years of not having that with exh, I feel very lucky.

My second dh is lovely too
We both have our little foibles
I know I do

Driving down to our caravan on Friday i could have stove his head in with a frying pan. He was making such a fuss about answering a txt on my phone. Using the sat nav etc

I Don't know how I kept my cool. I'm dri along with all this drama going on!
Nightmare!
What all of it was about I don't know...I'd just know I'd be lost without him!

Hey, don't worry, wait another ten years and your husband might have an affair, then you'll have something more interesting to talk about.

My husband is wonderful too! I believe he's the best man alive, and would do anything for anyone but knows where to put in boundaries in place so he isn't a walk over. Plus he's really handsome and great in bed!

Thank God someone posted something positive about men. I understand that some men's actions damaged the image of alot of men (trust me i've experienced the bad ones too) but there are genuinely some really good ones out there and its a shame that some people advice some poster based on their own bad relationship/resentment. I too have a lovely husband who is not perfect but surely tries his best. We have our ups and downs like many other couples and but we mainly make a conscious decision to not focus on just the bad bits about us but the good bits too, it just helps you to realise that there is no perfect person out there including women.

I have 2 boys who if they grow up to care for their family like my husband does, I will be very proud but I certainly hope they will become a much better version of us and not pick on our bad bits.

There are good men out there and if you are going through marital issues, be very careful whose advice you listen to as it can make or break your marriage especially if they are things that are fixable.

PS. there are some bad women out there too, we just don't hear men moan about them as much as women do.

My partner is often an utter cock womble but then can be amazing, bit like me really, I take joy in winding him up or jumping out and booing him. I have friends with perfect husbands and that must be dull x

Unless we're talking about the difference between actual criminal behaviour and honesty, this distinction between "good" and "bad" men or women is nonsense. Was my husband good until he had an affair - did I make him bad? - or was he bad all those 20 years I thought he was a good guy, and I just didn't notice it?

And this idea that people just talk about negative stuff on here because it makes more interesting gossip is plain disrespectful to the men and women who come on the site feeling awful and in need of advice, or who stay on as they realise it is a form of therapy, helping them find a new way to look at relationships and maybe have a happier life.

Yes, I would not tempt fate.

Mine just came out of bathroom asking how is it possible he weighs more since taking a dump. I Genuinely find it cute, must be love 😂😂

6 months ago I'd have said my DH was a lovely man, and listed his good qualities till the cows came home.

I don't think I'll ever come to terms with the brutality with which he tore our family apart.

Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

I'm really sorry for those who are going through heartbreaks, its never a good feeling and I hope and pray for nothing but love and joy for you.

I have to state that I believe the intention of the OP is not to rub it in and say you got the bad men while others have the good ones, its just to counter generalisation that all men are bad and letting women out there know that there are good ones too - same thing I will tell my daughter.

There are women on this forum that has confessed to cheating on their partner and I would not want to be painted with the same brush and be called "bad" or "cheater" by the opposite sex because of this.

I tell people that there are good and bad people in the world regardless of their sex. Selfishness has no gender, people who make choices to ruin their family with their bad attitude/selfish needs are just that really, selfish and we see this every day but in different forms.

yes OP your DH might be lovely but people come here looking for advice in the darkest of times. You don't need advice as your DH is so lovely.

Sometimes there are threads in Topic area about "the wonderful things Dh does" etc by those who want to combat the doom and gloom on this Topic area but it must be heartbreaking to read about toe rubs, rose strewn carpets and breakfasts in bed for those who have come looking for guidance and support in the worst of times.