Is my girlfriend selfish?

[BlingersMcBling]

I've been seeing a girl for around 2 years and I'm getting to the point where I'm wondering if this is normal and would really like any other opinions.
There are a lot of things that have happened but the latest is: we are meant to be renting a new house where everything will be in my name but 2 weeks before we are about to move in she has left her job. She can't seem to hold down a job. She said there's one part of it she can't stand and I just think if it was me you'd put up with it until at least you'd found something else.
She has always struggled to keep a job and has had about 6 in the 2 years I've seen her.
Thing is I've got into a lot of debt and carried her throughout our relationship and I'm getting to the point where I'm just sick of it.
Also she has refused to do this other part of her job which means her work colleagues (who also hate it) have to do her shifts. This doesn't phase her at all but I know if it was me I wouldn't do that to my work colleagues.
There's also other cases of where she's been selfish I think eg
Her daughter really wanted to go to a school disco and was excited but my gf realised she had a nail appointment so just cancelled her daughters disco (instead of just cancelling her nails)
Also she's always leaving me to iron her kids clothes and make sure there's food in for them. Im not saying it should be just her responsibility but it just never enters her head, if I didn't then they wouldn't have anything. Anyway rant over, is this normal behaviour? Thanks

Thing is I've got into a lot of debt and carried her throughout our relationship and I'm getting to the point where I'm just sick of it.

Take a break. See how you feel after 6 months without her.

What are her housing arrangements at the moment?

She sounds dreadful. I would be devastated if one of my sons were in a relationship with a woman like your girlfriend. She sounds like an incredibly lazy and selfish person.

What's the female name go Cock Lodger? Because she is it!
Do not move in with her, just don't.

Sounds awful....very unpleasant, entitled person...I would walk away now.

You need to split up with her before moving into your new place. You'll just end up getting more and more resentful.

I actually know someone like this!! She would do anything to put herself first!! Thinks it's OK to send her to kid a party without a present because her daughter being there should be enough, and they should be lucky to have her there!! Would cancel anything so she gets 'me' time, never cooks or cleans and her DP picks up after her when she flutters her eye lashes

Run for the hills - do it now while you have chance to escape

Run ....run as fast as you can.

Tell her today that the moving in thing isn't going to work and tell her why. You are not connected other than being partners are you? You are allowing her to walk all over you as it is. You can see what is happening here, once she is freeloading off you, she will be pregnant and you will be the one that's fucked. Walk away. Today. If you don't you will regret it.

You told her you would leave if she walked out of her job. Now she's done it, you need to make that threat good. And you certainly need to split up before you move, it will be much more difficult to get her out of the house afterwards.

It really depends how pretty she is....

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Move in to the new place without her. This will force her to step up and take responsibility for her own children and life.

Oh dear! Don't move in with her. She's using you. You sound sensible and very decent. Escape now

I think if you've told her that it's over if she loses another job then you really have to follow through. It's better for both of you.
Sounds like she might not have been parented herself properly? Where will her and the children go if they don't move into the new place?

Thanks guys I think I know what I need to do.

Honestly, you've been picking up the slack and built up debts? She expects you to provide for her, get rid. She sounds like she thinks she has found a personal fool who will foot the bills and she doesn't have to worry or take responsibility. Yes she is dreadful.

The last time she left her job I told her if she does it again I'm gone
Why would you make a threat you were not prepared to follow through on ???? It makes you look weak!!!!

Oh god yes stop sleeping with her too straight away, she'll have one of those Accidental' pregnancies that means your saddled with her outlook.

Not surprised her credit rating came back so poor. You'll end up in the same position and financially buggered as well if you stay with her. FGS get rid. She'll just carry on using you and bleeding you dry and will probably move onto someone else when you can no longer afford to finance her selfish way of living. I don't think you sound weak but you do need to follow on that ultimatum.

Next time - look for a woman who has similar outlook to you - works hard wants to do well - shared interests

Being pretty isn't a life long

Oh god yes, be careful of pregnancy. No "last hurrah". No getting drunk and thinking what the hell.

Ugh. I hate princessy women. They give the rest of us a bad name! Please stop picking up after her , fund someone that'll be your equal. Many women would love a decent, kind man like you.

Run run for your life

Dump her..plenty more fish in the sea or even,,be fishless rather than mugged over.