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Who had children later in life...

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Willing2acceptAdvice · 13/07/2017 19:18

Hi all,

I have a few worries about having children later in life.

Can you please all share your stories. Anyone here had children post 34/35? Do you have a partner who was 35 plus and had children with him?

How old were you when you met your partner? How old were you when you had your children?

Thanks in advance.

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purplenessy · 13/07/2017 19:59

Met aged 38 and 41
Married aged 40 and 43
First child aged 41 and 45

5BlueHydrangea · 13/07/2017 19:59

Dh was 64 when we had dd. I was late 30's...

flapjackfairy · 13/07/2017 20:01

I had my children at 25,27,36 and adopted a 2yr old last year aged 52. I absolutely agree that 30s is not later in life.

PickAChew · 13/07/2017 20:03

I had mine in my mid 30s. Had only been with dh a year when ds1 was born!

itsgoodtobehome · 13/07/2017 20:06

Met dh when I was 37. Got married just before I turned 40. Had ds at 41. Tried for a second, but sadly failed. Am now 46 and still hoping for a miracle second baby!!!

Oliack1417 · 13/07/2017 20:30

Met when we were both 30. Had dc1 at 35 and dc2 at 38. We were lucky to become pregnant almost immediately both times, and two straightforward pregnancies and births. Have never felt very 'old'

missyB1 · 13/07/2017 20:33

Had ds when I was 41 and DH was 42, would have liked another but had 3 miscarriages so decided to stop trying.

thereinmadnesslies · 13/07/2017 20:35

My DH was 50 when DS1 was born and 53 when DS2 arrived. He's got nothing to compare it to, so no idea if it's easier or harder than having kids at 25!

ImSoUnoriginal · 13/07/2017 20:35

My partner was 40 when we met, I was 31. Tried for a baby for several years and had my son last year at the age of 36. 😊

JamesDelayneysTattoos · 13/07/2017 20:38

I had my first child at 28.
Number 2 - 31
Number 3 - 36
Number 4 - 38
Number 5 - 40
Number 6 - 44

RiverTam · 13/07/2017 20:38

I was 38, DH 37. Not that unusual round our way.

The two downsides have been being more physically exhausted that if we were younger (and fitter, in my case) and having ageing grandparents - none live near and none are in great health, plus my mum was also an older mum so she's pretty ancient Grin. It's the one thing that makes me hope DD doesn't leave it as late as us!

MarciaBlaine · 13/07/2017 20:47

I was 35 and dh 46. All going fine many years on.

Original poster
Willing2acceptAdvice · 13/07/2017 21:17

PearlyG8 I'm 34 almost 35

OP posts:
crazykitten20 · 13/07/2017 21:20

I have a few worries about having children later in life
Can you please all share your stories. Anyone here had children post 34/35

Later in life? And I suppose 55/56 is one foot in?

Jeez 🙄

izzybobsmum · 13/07/2017 21:28

Met DH when I was 30, he was 40. Had PCOS, so when TTC we had to use Clomid. Worked first time, had DD at 33. She is now 11, I am 44, DH is 53. He is a fab dad, still has plenty of energy, although he has the odd daytime nap now....

Cantwait4summer · 13/07/2017 21:29

Met dp at age 41
Already have 2 dc from ex (had them at 31& 34 )
Dc3 at 43

SpeckledyHen · 13/07/2017 21:32

Met when I was 37 and DH 33 . DS1 born when I was 39.5 and DS2 2 months before 42nd birthday .

Conceived on 2nd month the first time and 1st month the second time . Horrendous pregnancies both times with severe hyperemisis .
No regrets - best thing ever .

LellyMcKelly · 13/07/2017 21:37

37 and 40 when I had mine - exDH 35 and 38. Preeclampsia with first but fine with second. The second is a real live wire. If I'd had him first he'd have been an only child! Love motherhood - never stop, but it's worth it. I still have a go on the swings when I get the chance.

mayhew · 13/07/2017 21:38

As a midwife, anyone under 40 nowadays is young! Did you know more w omen over 40 now are having babies than teenagers?

eastegg · 13/07/2017 21:42

I'm 43, DH 40.

Met at 30, married at 33 nearly 34, DS1 at just turned 35, DS2 at 37, DS3 I lost due to chromosomal abnormalities at 16 weeks aged 41, currently 38 weeks with DC4.

I've got pregnant unbelievably easily every single time.

When I lost my third it was so awful I wanted to shout from the rooftops 'don't leave it late ladies!' But I don't really think that, I think go for it, problems happen fairly randomly at any age, and you are not old at all!

mayhew · 13/07/2017 21:42

I was going to add, life expectancy is over 80 these days, so even over 60s are likely to see their children reach adulthood.

There are pros and cons at all ages and stages of life. The perfect timing for two people is a rare window. Humans are adaptable, you have to want to be a parent and give this adventure your full attention.

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Willing2acceptAdvice · 13/07/2017 21:57

Fightthebear

Basically I'm worried about when I'm going to have children...I always wanted them early 30's but I've had some bad luck and my currently relationship isn't going as well as I would have liked x

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PearlyG8 · 13/07/2017 22:14

Yes mayhew I know of someone who had last DC at 53, still going strong in late 80s and someone else who had first DC at 52 now chasing a small child around the park regularly.

barbarann · 13/07/2017 22:18

I'm a bit offended to be classed as 'later in life'!

However had ds at 39, DH was 36. This was due to not meeting until we were older. First and only child and staying that way as the birth was too traumatic to face again - but hat had no relevance to my age.

steppemum · 13/07/2017 22:18

I met dh aged 32.
dc1 born aged 35
dc2 born aged 37
dc3 born aged 40.

No issues with coneiving, but 4 miscarriages between the babies.

They are now 9, 12 and 14, and it is still good.

My only sadness is that unless they all marry young I will be a very old Granny