Hello. A bit of information before I get to what happened yesterday. I am with DP for nearly two years. He has sort temper and he can explode over small things. I honestly think that the only feeling he is comfortable with, is anger, everything and anything makes him angry. Many times he brakes things, the other day he broke his phone and apparently it was all my fault because I made him do it. He is also the sort of person that will never take responsibility for anything he says /does , it is always someone else's fault someone made him do it and this someone most of the time is me.
Sometime ago he decided to move to pursue a career. He already had a job in that field but he was under supervision. In order to get his proper license he has to work certain hours . Everyone was telling him at the time that he should stay and finish his hours but apparently his boss didn't appreciate him enough and wasn't giving him the opportunities he deserved(his words not mine)
Fast forward 8 months, he hasn't found a job in his field yet . I am always supportive, I try to encourage him (his family are upset with him) , I always tell him to go give his cv in companies on his field even if they don't hire just now etc. He has a job now that he hates because his boss is against him and he is trying to make him look bad (his words not mine), In all honesty I don't think that he knows what he wants, one moment he will say he wants to pursue a career in his field next moment he wants to change education next moment something else.
From my side it doesn't matter what job he does, I am just trying to support him in any decision and am trying to lift his spirit when he gets disappointed
Yesterday he spoke to an old friend of his .His friend has now a career and a family and i think that this is affected him. He told me how he wants this for us etc and I said that no ones life is perfect so he shouldn't compare himself to his friend and feel less. He thanked me for the support .
By the night he was disappointed with his job and life and he turned it all against me. He said that if it wasn't for me he would have the career now and that he hasn't because he is thinking of me (?????). He said that he feels depressed and that I lock him in a cage and that's why he missed all the opportunities. He also said that the money he is saving so we can live together he could spend them on an education and a new career. I asked him what I do to him and he said that he used to enjoy going out for night walks and that he used to go shopping for hours but now he is spending his hours with me and he don't have the time to find the he he wants. I reminded him that he is the one that demands me to be with him from the moment I finish work and that he is the one that demands from me to sort my life around his schedule. I also told him that the way he feels is very bad, it shouldn't be this way and if he feels like this then he can do what he needs without worry about me. His reply was that he is in that for so long he doesn't know how to be different( thats not him, he is the cockiest person you d ever meet not a victim ) and he is afraid that if he does this I will do the same
To me this is just him trying to find someone to blame for his life decisions because he can never be wrong. But its very serious to hear all this, I need some advice please