and angry and to not know how to handle this.
A friend - or someone who I thought was a friend - has behaved rather oddly over the last 18 months or so.
She's a mum at my dd's school.
She'll come over for a cup of tea - she asks to come over, will be perfectly affable etc but then at social occasions involving other mums at school, she makes it very clear she would rather. It be anywhere near me.
A couple of recent examples. We were at a charity ball and she looked really hacked off when we went over to say hello. H suggested a photo of us and her h and him. She stood a metre apart in the photo, scurried off and then I didn't see her all evening. I didn't mind as I had a brilliant time but it really struck me how oddly she'd behaved.
On a mums night out, she abruptly told me she'd promised to sit next to someone else. I wasn't even angling to sit next to her. I was just making my way to the table and happened to be behind her when she blurted this out as if in a panic I was going to sit next to her, like some teenager worried she was going to be stuck with the class dork.
Yet she still wants to come over for a cup of tea, chat etc. It's obvious though that in public obviously doesn't want to be seen with me. She would far rather be talking to someone else.
Now, this isn't something I can talk about with her. She would just deny it and I would look like a paranoid fool.
But if it happens again in public, how should I handle it? I find it excruciating but always seem to manage to get snubbed in a crowd.
I think I should also most definitely not bother with her when she's asks to come over for a cup of tea but she's the type to persist if I say I'm busy.
I am hurt and pissed off that anyone would think it okay to behave like this to someone.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.