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Man I am seeing doesn't have time to meet me but sexts all day?

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ConfusedDeer · 03/07/2017 15:21

I have been 'seeing' a new man for around 3 months now, we met online. We get on really well, actually it's quite strange at times how well we get on and just how much we have in common. We had some great dates, and great sex.

Over the last month and a half he has become increasingly busy (he works two jobs, including one that is evening/night shifts). He also has a daughter that he sees every weekend. He has told me that he currently doesn't have the time to see me on a regular basis. I accepted this as him fobbing me off and our conversations dwindled.

However, the last week or so we have begun talking again, pretty much sending text messages to one another all day. They will often turn flirty and into sexting messages. I told him a few days ago that I was not willing to continue this texting 'relationship' or become a FWB, and I wanted a relationship whereby we saw each other on a regular basis. He said he understood and I deserved more, and if his circumstances were different he would see me.

But we keep slipping back into this regular texting/sexting thing. I really like this man and I haven't met anyone I have as much chemistry with in a very very long time.

I'm getting to the point where I think I should just cut all contact with him. It's preventing me from meeting anyone else properly as I keep pinning my hopes on him. Has anyone had a situation where this has worked out in the end, is he just stringing me along or should I just block and try to forget about this one?

OP posts:
nj32 · 04/07/2017 11:13

In a similar situation op. We were seeing each other once or twice a month. Lots of texting but no real 'time'. I end up texting when it goes quiet & have been tempted today. We are worth so much more and like others have said you make time. Good luck.

MistressDeeCee · 04/07/2017 12:39

He's got someone else. You're the fallback girl he knows will buy his I'm soooo busy line (I take it he's not running a country or major conglomerate) and waste time on Whatsapping thrills with him. You really should want more for yourself and disengage with this type of silliness. You say it's difficult breaking away - but he's already broken away from you. At best you'll see him very, very occasionally. If you ever see him again, that is.

All this for an unavailable man that you'very only known 3 months and don't spend time with now. Whatever the reasons for his sudden unavailability - he's not there is he? I don't get what you're actually holding on for.

I know quite a few men who don't live with a woman. That's their choice. It doesn't mean they don't have a woman. ...!

Cricrichan · 04/07/2017 13:27

Hi op.

He's not really interested in you. He's coming up with reasons and excuses rather for not being able to see you rather than finding ways to see you or giving you reaosons to stick around .

Trills · 04/07/2017 20:55

If he were looking for FWB he would be trying to meet and get some B.

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