My reason for ending this otherwise lovely relationship, is ok, isn't it?

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I'm not sure if i'm just overreacting or not, i'm in an otherwise healthy, good relationship. He treats me well, looks after me, treats me with respect and loyalty. However, if we have a slight disagreement he completely ignores me and turns his phone off. It's infuriating. I've been in bad relationships before and I will NEVER be treated so badly again.

For example, today, my car insurance renewal has come back over double than what it was last year. I cannot afford to drive my car now, which limits job options and other things. I was stressed, so snapped at him on the phone. He's now ignored me all afternoon and has switched his phone off. I tried to call back to apologise and say i'm just stressed and that I would appreciate his help on the matter.

Just a couple of days ago, I'd cooked us dinner (even cooked his favourite dinner, which he requested!) and he called to say he'd be twenty minutes but didn't arrive at mine until 1h20 minutes after he'd originally called. I politely asked him why? why are you always late? (he is, it's a regular thing, he's shit at timekeeping) and he went into a mood. He said he does not want to eat with me anymore and I must never cook his dinner again as he doesn't want to be 'watched on timekeeping' he left, turned his phone off and ignored me once again.

It's happening far too frequently and it spoils everything. I am quite snappy and get irritable a lot. I've recently been diagnosed with anxiety and i'm trying different medication - most of which haven't agreed with me.

He sounds horrible. Definitely end it

Please phone another insurance company though!! You don't have to stick with original rip off quote!!
Then delete and block Mr Ignorant's number. .

Him sulking is shit but then so I being snapped at by an irritable person. I hate being snapped at (reminds of my dad!) so I would probably retreat into myself if my DP kept doing that.

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Well, you can try and have an adult conversation about what is bothering you and explain that you are struggling with being snappy due to your anxiety etc. If nothing changes kick him to the kerb.
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You can kick him to the kerb now.
I think the fact you are asking if you should means you know you should.

Personally I couldn't be doing with childish behaviour like turning his phone off. Good on you for wanting to be treated with respect.

He sounds nasty. Doesn't seem any reason to stay with him.

Get onto a comparison site to find your insurance, is almost always cheaper to go elsewhere rather than renew with an existing insurer. Also, try different options eg search for comprehensive AND for 3rd party, fire and theft. Money supermarket and compare the market are the sites I use.

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Next!

The timekeeping I get, its infuriating but as you say he's always late, so he always will be. Accept it or finish it. The phone thing sounds like you being arsy and him leaving you to it. I think there are changes you could make, not just him.

With regards to car insurance, get quotes online then ring back your insurer, they will almost certainly match the best quote. I saved £400 in 10 minutes doing this last month.

With regards to your partner, his behaviour is very nasty and you deserve better x

I'm not snappy all the time! To be fair, I don't think I am snappy. I think he uses that as an excuse for me to shut up and not say anything. When I said why are you so late? He went grumpy and off with me, then refused to eat the dinner I'd made even though he could see it all plated up on the side. Then he said he's in a bad mood because i'm 'snappy'.

Say your having concerns about your future because he acts like a child and does that everytime you disagree. Explain you would like a relationship with a grown up and that each time he does it makes you realise that little bit more how incompatible you both are.

If he doesn't listen then tell him to fuck off

I'm absolutely gutted about my insurance. I've been with the same provider for 4 years, I had a very slight bump at 6 mph in stand still traffic. The other person got out the car and said don't worry about it, nothings wrong with the car (there actually wasn't). I insisted I give him my business card anyway.

Next minute my insurance are paying out £6.5k for a car that was worth £600 and a whip lash claim. Now my insurance is over double what it was. I've tried compare the markets/confused.com but there more expensive than my current insurer. Argh. :-(

He's horrible. Selfish, too. He's got you cooking for him while he dithers about, unable to give you the courtesy of being on time, and then refuses to eat it, blaming you! Horrible. Dump him.

Bin the duller and do what these clever people say to get car insurance. It WILL be lower than your quote.

www.moneysavingexpert.com/car-insurance/

That is really where you need a dash cam, isn't it?

Bin the sulker that should be.

Yup. He sounds a right sulky sod. Bin him off would be my advice. Life is way too short.

Yes, bin. He isn't loyal or respectful and he doesn't treat you well and it's NOT a good relationship.

You shouldn't have to walk on egg shells but perhaps rather than wording it as "why are you so late?" in an accusing tone, try instead something like "did you get held up in traffic or "blimey those roads are always so busy".

That way, you are still bringing up the lateness but without putting the fault onto him.

I don't think that's a trivial reason for ending things at all. In fact, I would say it is a sanity-preserving one.

Insurance: do shop around. You can often get MUCH cheaper quotes elsewhere.

URGH what an arsehole. Life is too short for that kind of miserable sulky behaviour.

Re: the car insurance: urk. If the various comparison sites aren't helping, try one of those old fashioned local actual shop places and see if you can get something more reasonable with them - they're not usually cheaper for everyone but for awkward situations like yours they may be able to do something.

That kind of behaviour is psychologically and emotionally abusive to me. It will screw you up eventually.

You shouldn't have to walk on egg shells but perhaps rather than wording it as "why are you so late?" in an accusing tone, try instead something like "did you get held up in traffic or "blimey those roads are always so busy". That way, you are still bringing up the lateness but without putting the fault onto him

Sorry, but this is really bad advice. You should be able to speak freely without worrying how you word things. You will be watching everything to you say and every turn of phrase and ultimately blaming yourself for not wording things correctly, instead of blaming him for being an arsehole.

Fault on both sides here. You're expecting understanding because you're always snappy and irritable because you "have anxiety" and yet if he ignores you and switches off his phone he's the one in the wrong?

Ignoring is bloody irritating but so is being snapped at at every turn. If he was the one doing the snapping you'd be told to end the relationship for that too so tbh it sounds as if you're just incompatible and that perhaps if you are always irritable you're not ready for a relationship yet either.

How long have you been together?
I would hate to be "cut off" every time I expressed some frustration or annoyance. At the same time, if my DP was very snappy all the time, there would be times when I didnt want to absorb it all either or have a row.

He will always be late for things, so either you are ok with this or not.

But the dinner situation sounds crazy!

• he was very late - of course you would expect an explanation and tbh an appology - not grovelling but "sorry I said 20 mins and I got . . . . caught behind a tractor and I should have called to let you know etc"
• he said he would never eat with you again! how is that going to work?