My reason for ending this otherwise lovely relationship, is ok, isn't it?

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I'm not sure if i'm just overreacting or not, i'm in an otherwise healthy, good relationship. He treats me well, looks after me, treats me with respect and loyalty. However, if we have a slight disagreement he completely ignores me and turns his phone off. It's infuriating. I've been in bad relationships before and I will NEVER be treated so badly again.

For example, today, my car insurance renewal has come back over double than what it was last year. I cannot afford to drive my car now, which limits job options and other things. I was stressed, so snapped at him on the phone. He's now ignored me all afternoon and has switched his phone off. I tried to call back to apologise and say i'm just stressed and that I would appreciate his help on the matter.

Just a couple of days ago, I'd cooked us dinner (even cooked his favourite dinner, which he requested!) and he called to say he'd be twenty minutes but didn't arrive at mine until 1h20 minutes after he'd originally called. I politely asked him why? why are you always late? (he is, it's a regular thing, he's shit at timekeeping) and he went into a mood. He said he does not want to eat with me anymore and I must never cook his dinner again as he doesn't want to be 'watched on timekeeping' he left, turned his phone off and ignored me once again.

It's happening far too frequently and it spoils everything. I am quite snappy and get irritable a lot. I've recently been diagnosed with anxiety and i'm trying different medication - most of which haven't agreed with me.

Bin him. He doesn't sound lovely at all.
Also, always bin when in doubt. the worst that could happen is that you are single for a while (which is no bad thing anyway).
If you 'work at' a relationship that isn't making you happy, you could find yourself stuck with a man who is not compatible with you or even abusive.

He doesn't sound that great to me.

I've been in similar situation, and funny enough, my anxiety virtually disappeared after I got rid of him. Could it be boyfriend related anxiety...??

You deserve someone who won't play on your insecurities.

wannabe can I ask why you felt the need to put your comment in question marks? I am struggling with anxiety at the minute, i've been on Citolapram for six weeks and now changing as I had bad side effects. It's something a lot of people suffer with!

I am reading all your comments and taking them on board. It's a shame because he is so good to me in some ways. I just get bad feelings/flashbacks of walking on egg shells. I know I can be on my own, I was single for four years before I finally decided to embark on a new relationship!

I know everyone has their down falls, I certainly know mine and remind myself of them every day. I just find being ignored, walked out on and the phone put down on me for such trivial things really upsetting. We've been together for a year and a half, not an exactly new relationship and we're planning to move in together after our holiday in September (that's another thing, he's spent an absolute fortune to take me on holiday. He refused to let me pay a thing!) and I feel awful about that.

End it before the holiday. He sounds way too dramatic and I suspect it is partly responsible for your anxiety. As soon as he stepped in he should have apologised for his lateness with the meal. I would have no problem in ever eating with or cooking for him again.

It sounds like you're torn here. It sounds as though you don't want it to end but you want this big baby sulking to stop. And that's Ok, you don't have to end an otherwise happy relationship becasue he sulks and gets a bit stroppy sometimes. Man, my husband would have dumped me a million times over if that was a good enough reason alone to dump someone. Have you talked to him about how upset you feel when he sulks like a child? You sound like you don't want to throw it all away but I guess you need to decide if it's worth working at? And wether he would be willing to work on changing his behaviour? Good luck xx

Apologies OP didn't realise it had gone in question marks? I use a screenreader and it didn't indicate that had happened. so was a pure technical failing on my part (or the part of technology at least. :-)

I do agree FWIW that being ignored is bloody irritating and I wouldn't stand for that. But equally I am the type who finds it very hard to tolerate being snapped at so this would influence my view also. It's possible that you both exhibit behaviours which to the other are annoying/intolerable and that now you're at the eighteen month mark the honeymoon period is starting to wear off and you are each starting to realise your own annoyance points and that actually the behaviours combined make you incompatible.

I don't think you're unreasonable for ending the relationship because of the ignoring, but equally I don't think that he would be unreasonable for finding being snapped at difficult either. Iyswim?

He's not lovely and YANBU. Look after yourself

I appreciate that we are only hearing your side, and that on dadsnet there is quite possibly a bloke who is saying 'My partner is great and we have such a lovely time most of the time, but recently she has been so snappy, and I don't think I can cope with being told off and nit-picked for my timekeeping'.

But you know, even if that is the truth, I still think I'm being overly fair to this chap, because he sounds like a bit of a daft plonker. Imagine going in a huff when you've been really bloody late for a lovely dinner that your partner has prepared for you? What did he expect? Silly git. Worse, I always suspect that behaviour like that signals passive aggressiveness- as in, habitual lateness sends a message to you that the late person's time is more valuable than yours, and this behaviour is controlling and difficult to live with long term. It is almost always met with whiny defensiveness when challenged too.

Bottom line- he sounds quite immature and huffy, and I wouldn't be surprised if being with somebody like him is doing your anxiety no favours. You need somebody more considerate. Gawd, don't we all? Bin it off love x