How do you make a man be more romantic?

[juicychops]

are men either born a romantic or the total opposite?

I don't know, because I don't fancy romantic men.

ime you have to take them as they are

dh not romantic

but incredibly generous

have never had spontaneous flowers (in 8 yrs)

think it just depends on the type of bloke they are

exh never made any effort, my current bf does little things all the time

he just promised me a massage when he comes up tomorrow, for example (he knows i have been v stressed recently)

This sounds like the first half of a joke, tbh. I'm waiting for the punchline.

Seriously, though, I think different people express their love in different ways. Sometimes you have to learn to appreciate their way, and sometimes they have to try showing they care in a way you enjoy more.

I think they either are or they aren't you can't change it. My Dh is a happy medium. He doesn't romance me so much that I am sick of it but enough that I feel spoiled

Oh Romance is a pavlovian response. You can train them....

kiss and cuddle leads to 'lots of sex'
buying chocolates leads to 'lots of sex'
saying 'I love you' in front of friends leads to 'lots of sex'

You get the picture.

Get him drunk!

drink and remorse

Get him drunk when he's horny
You can get shopping trips galore that way haha!

You can't - unless you trade him in.

Brain surgery?

pretend there is a power cut when match of day is on /news light a few candles. must try this sounds like a good idea to me?

dare i say on a more serious note just say it do what they did on telly and put little cards of romantic things into glass bowl and get him to pick one out and do that for you ie run bath etc...

missed the first part of programme so not sure if we have to do something like that for him probably

pretend there is a power cut when match of day is on /news light a few candles. must try this sounds like a good idea to me?

dare i say on a more serious note just say it do what they did on telly and put little cards of romantic things into glass bowl and get him to pick one out and do that for you ie run bath etc...

missed the first part of programme so not sure if we have to do something like that for him probably

Depends on your idea of romance.

DP is romantic, but not in the traditional flowers and chocolates way exactly

but no - you cant make them....

rolloneaster, the idea of the little notes with 'romantic gestures' written on them makes me want to heave . I like spontaneous romantic things such as being cooked for unexpectedly but the notes are just so 'planned' it would take away any pleasure IYSWIM

oxocube it wasn't my idea but for goodness sake spontaneous do you have children? there is not enough hours in the day to be spontaneous deep joy if there could be.

let me see relatives nearby to have the kids for a night eh no !

nanny? cleaner? ironing lady? no spontaneous I cannot remember spontaneous!!!

rolloneaster, oh yes, I definitely have children (3). And I wasn't having a go at you, just the idea!! I do think you can still do spontaneous, even with kids. I was thinking more along the lines of someone giving you a massage without being asked, cooking dinner unexpectedly, buying a bunch of daffs from the local florist rather than the garage on the way home from work or anything that shows you are special!

Mind you, I can't remember the last time I had any of these

you can't make them, i've learned that. instead i accept that his idea of romance is different, and i look for that instead. he's not a flowers and chocolates type, or a love letter type- although when we first went out, and it was in secret, he wrote me a couple. i cherish those.

he treats me very well, some buys me a gift like a DVD, or something i like from the supermarket etc. It's enough for me.

I'll let you off then oxo It's not easy to keepit all going and keep everyone happy including yourself. romantic gestures really help although i think i have my ration after Mother's day

lead by example.

Make him read this . It's full of great tips for both sexes on how to manipulate each other (because a little manipulation shows effort and that's romance enough for me!)

threaten to leave him.