This is driving me MAD. My mother is 76, and has just given up on doing anything except sitting and watching telly.
She is quite a bright lady, but these days she doesn't read books, she won't go out. She does have pain in one leg, and is waiting for a knee replacement, but even stimulating things that don't need her to walk or stand don't interest her.
She did mention that she might like to get a computer so that when the TV says "just log on to ....." she can. But she has never used a computer or any type of keyboard in her life. SO I said "why don't you nip up to the library and see if they can tell you about any courses you can join first, to get the hang of it?" She won't. I asked why, and she said "I don't want to be committed to attending things at a set time. I like to do things when I want to."
But she does NOTHING.
I live 130 miles away, and she says she misses me and ds (hmm, apparently doesn't give a damn about dh then). She wants us to go down to her, but she has a car, she could come up to us anytime she likes (I make it very clear that she is welcome anytime). But she wants me to pack up me, ds and 2 dogs and go to stay with her. She would like us to go over the easter weekend. But dh works away from home during the week. We didn't really want to spend a precious long weekend up and down the motorway in Bank Holiday traffic.
When she does come to us, I take her into the city centre, and have introduced her to shopmobility, so she can browse the shops. I suggested she register with shopmobility in her town (Gloucester), so she can park, pick up a scooter and browse the shops occasionally. No, she 'can't be bothered'. But yesterday she asked me "next time you go into Nottingham can you buy me some face cream". which means I have to parcel it up and send it. She did the same last week. "Can you get me the new Russell Watson CD"(yeughhh).
I'm just worried that she is going to atrophy, both physically and mentally. It's even worse because she insisted on booking to go on holiday with us next month. Since we booked it she has got worse, and I'm terrified that she is going to spend the whole fortnight hanging on my arm, doing nothing on her own, and causing bother between dh and I, because he wants time with me too.
I wish she had never subscribed to bl%%dy Sky TV, cause it gives her more reason to sit staring at rubbish all day, every day. She won't even watch documentaries now, cos they are sooooo depressing, apparently. Neighbours, Emmerdale, cookery programs and SKY sport form her whole life.
HELP