is there such a thing like a happy long marriage

[blueflower30]

I know that it can not be easy and it takes work. But so far i havent seen anyone to be happy in their marriage. Half of the people i know are divorced and the rest who stayed married are bickering all day or just ignore eachother. Its a bit disappointing

Whats brought this on OP? Are you married? :-)

We had our 28th wedding anniversary earlier this month , been together 32 yrs and we are very happy thank you .

I don't know many divorced people at all (well, not people I know well anyway). None in either dh's or my family and all seem pretty happily married. Only one of our friends was divorced (young, before having children) and he's now been happily married for ages, with 2 dc. So it's certainly possible!

Yes of course there is!

Me and my dh are very happy and It's very rare indeed we argue.

Once the dc are in bed of an evening we sit down to dinner and can't stop chatting away. Sex life is also good

Our marriage has had difficult times like when our first baby was stillborn but we survived it and if it wasn't for me dh support I honestly do not believe I would be alive now for a while after losing dd I truly believed I wanted to die.

My 2 dc are only young babies still but dh has been a brilliant father so far, and we are expecting our 3rd.

Nobody else can make me feel like my dh can

For a marriage to work you need to be with the right person

For a marriage to work you Both need to be prepared to put the effort it

I have been with DH nearly 28 years - married for 22 years. We are very happy. The majority of our friends/relations have been together equal length of time or longer, and appear very happy.

My mum and dad are still happily married after 40 years. They have had lots to deal with in life but seem good and like best friends really

Been together 18 years. We are happy I think. I am anyway.

Together 34 years, married 27 years. Very very happy together still.

I'm previously divorced, but DH and I celebrate 13 years, this weekend.

We occasionally bicker and certainly aren't at all lovey dovey, but rub along pretty well together.

We've been together 20 years, married 13. I'm very happy and I hope he is too!

Married 32 years. Together 37 years. Very happy ta.

Been married 17 years and we are still very happy. I trust him 100%. He is my best friend, a wonderful dad, and he still makes me go a bit funny when he walks in the door.

I know lots of married couples and of the ones I know well, I would say more of them are happy than are not. It simply cannot be true that you don't know of one happy couple - how can you even know that?

Thats so nice and positive :) My relationship has issues and most people i know including my parents are divorced or seem to hate eachother. I guess i am trying to find some light and some positivity because i feel so dissapointed

Yes my parents and my in laws are all really happy after 40 years of marriage, and lots of my friends parents too. I'm sure they argue, and go through difficult times, but you can tell when they are together how happy they make eachother and how much love is still there. I'm sorry you have not experienced this.

We have been married for 27 years, and are extremely happy. It hasn't always been the case (all my fault, after an awful, traumatic childhood I came with many issues, Dh is a saint). I used to joke that the first 20 years were the worst..it wasn't entirely a joke at some points. However, for some unfathomable reason he has stuck with me, and I can honestly say that it gets better and better every year. I don't ever want to be without him, and I realise how lucky I am (undeservedly).

Together 49 years and married 42.
We've had a family and busy careers and are now retired and enjoying more time together.
We've been happy I think because we met through a mutual passion and have kept the same principles, over the years,with 'healthy' debate.
We love each other very much and have helped and supported each other in the occasional low points of life.
A good sex life has been important for both of us and fortunately we are evenly matched in libido.
Since retiring I tend to stay home enjoying the peace and slower pace of life (and Mums/Gransnetting)while DH is more active,using his hobby to help others.
We both enjoy looking after DGC's when needed.
Holy God! Does that sound smug?
Didn't realise how good things are until I started to write

Together very happily for 23 years. My parents and grandparents were divorced and I didn't think happiness could last either, but it gets better for us as time goes by.

We have been married for 18 years - most of that time has been incredibly happy, some of that time has been fairly pedestrian - plodding along, and a very little of that time has been troubled.

We know we want to be together and see that as our "default" position, so when we have troubles we sort them out.

Together for 31 years, married for 23 this week. We have had some difficult patches, but we have done some honest talking about things that were making us unhappy and we are making a conscious effort to improve things. We are lucky to be healthy, to have jobs which enable us to have the standard of living we would like, and that our children seem to be doing well taking their first steps towards independence.

We enjoy doing things together (but also having our own space to pursue our own interests, friendships etc). Its not perfect, but its pretty good - if you had asked me a year ago, though, I would have painted a very different picture.

That's so nice for me to read as well! I have never met couples who are truly and utterly happy in their marriage and most of them stay together out of habit, joint circumstances (finance situations mainly) and /or children. So this is very encouraging to know that there are married couples of so many years who are truly happy with their lives.
I somehow think it will never happen with me!

21 yes here. We certainly argue, bicker or indeed shout, things aren't always perfect, but we are best friends and we both put an effort into getting back on track when things are going awry.

My Dad asked my Mum once on a family holiday if she was happy, she said she was content. I think he looked a bit disappointed and she explained that she thought 'happy' was an active state and not possible to maintain constantly. Being content was passive.
Using that as a guide, we are often happy together, sometimes unhappy, and usually contented.

My parents have been married for 42 years. They love each other very deeply, and it's quite obvious that they also fancy each other

Yeah my parents and inlaws are still happily together.

38 years here and still very happy. Of course we argue sometimes but never stay angry with each other. We still have an active sex life.

My DH is my best friend and I know he feels the same about me. We would rather spend time with each other than anyone else. We never seem to run out of things to talk about either!

My parents have been married for over 60 years and are happy, my brother over 30 years and happy and my sister over 30 years and happy.

I have a few cousins who have been married 25 years or longer and are, as far as I know, happy.

There is very little divorce in my family. A lot of our friends though are divorced, several more than once

Have recently been feeling very disillusioned with the world and wondering this sort of thing myself. Seeing these responses has cheered me up no end