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How soon would you contemplate going away with a new partner?

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RiseandGrind · 14/06/2017 19:17

We're both in our forties, known each other slightly for years and been dating for 2 months.

He'd like to go abroad for a weekend break.

Is it too soon? We've spent the night together but no longer. What's your experience?

I have a tendancy to worry and overthink!

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JK1773 · 14/06/2017 19:22

It sounds lovely, go for it if you're happy

IfNot · 14/06/2017 19:25

3 months. If it feels right it's right ( not if kids are coming too though, that took longer).

IfNot · 14/06/2017 19:26

Sorry I meant it was 3 months for me. 2 month is fine - you already knew each other etc.

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RiseandGrind · 14/06/2017 19:28

No kids for either of us.

I just didnt want to lose the romance too quickly in the trudge through airport security and shared bathroom intimacy. Blush

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weekendninja · 14/06/2017 19:31

I would go for it! It sounds wonderful. Far better he wants to take you away than to stay at home!

Angrybird123 · 14/06/2017 19:32

It's fine.shared bathroom, send him down to breakfast early or leave him there with a second coffee while you use the loo or whatever. Airports are different places when its you and him and hand luggage only and cocktails in the departure lounge. Go and have fun

JoJoSM2 · 14/06/2017 19:52

I think our 7th date was a weekend at his mum's :D Do what you're comfortable with, though.

Buffbabies · 14/06/2017 19:56

On our two week mark my partner and I went to Amsterdam for 5 days, he whisked me away to the Conservatorium and we saw some of my friends there + museums.

Also just lounged around! I have a photo of myself grinning next to a giant gold Miffy!

Don't be worried about it if it's too soon or anything like that! You might miss out on an amazing holiday and getting to know them better!

Bitrustyandbusty · 14/06/2017 21:02

We went from what was meant to be a one night stand to a long weekend away together six weeks after...and we met only once in between, which was after we'd already booked the trip! A few years later, we're engaged. There is no right answer, so do what's right for you!

PinkPeppers · 14/06/2017 21:08

Much less than that and we hadnt known each other before.
Im not even sure why you are asking. What are you worried about?
Either you will love it and it will be a nice step in the relationhsip or it will highlights plenty of issues something that surely is good to know early on?

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RiseandGrind · 14/06/2017 21:09

These are lovely stories! I feel better now. Grin

I'm going to go and just let whatever happens happen.

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TheNaze73 · 14/06/2017 21:11

3-6 months

PookieDo · 14/06/2017 22:11

I've waited a year and I am going to HATE sharing a bathroom. We each have 2 bathrooms at our houses so this is never an issue when we sleep over. Going in September

jayho · 14/06/2017 22:30

We stayed in a chichi hotel that had curtains instead of walls between room and bathroom. I had a 'youll have to give it ten minutes moment' and he was charmed by how comfortable I was with him.. .. takes all sorts....

scottishdiem · 15/06/2017 03:21

Am I missing something. Have you never stayed overnight together before. Has one or both of you got bowels of steel?

Surely you already have had shared bathroom intimacy?

PookieDo · 15/06/2017 07:21

If that's aimed at me - we have 2 bathrooms in each of our houses

Confuseddot · 15/06/2017 07:24

I was with mine a month before we had a mid week break in the UK. It was lovely an brought us closer together

Emboo19 · 15/06/2017 07:58

Go and enjoy it!
Two months in my boyfriend ended up joining a family and friends holiday with me for two weeks!

Ellisandra · 15/06/2017 08:13

I took a guy I might OLD to Paris for the weekend on about our 4th date.

Although I was very clear with him not to read anything into that in terms of my depth of interest Grin
Was OK, though telling me he wanted to go up the Eiffel Tower and then waiting until I booked and paid for tickets (in front of him) then walking there to say "I'm afraid of heights" was certainly a moment...

It was OK. For about our 10th date we jointly arranged to go to But even before we got there I was close to ending it. I had said to my friend, if he does cuz it's over - he did xyz when we were there. So it was pretty irritating being with him when I knew I'd be dumping him on return!

So - I say don't worry about waiting, you want to go - then go. But only go if you're independent enough (practically and financially) to speak up and book another room if you get there and think "what have I done? He's an arse!" And check he doesn't have vertigo if he suggests a tower Hmm

DrDreReturns · 15/06/2017 08:18

Dw and I had a dirty weekend after a month!

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RiseandGrind · 15/06/2017 18:43

Ha! These are funny.

Scottishdiem We've spent the night together several times, now and in the past but both of us must have major bowel control as neither have done more than wee in the bathroom so far. I have gone a week without before now when Ive had my routine disrupted!

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Emboo19 · 15/06/2017 19:00

I'm not getting the shared bathroom thing Confused. Just because you've gone away, doesn't mean they have to come in the bathroom with you or anything, maybe just make sure the hotel has a bathroom door!

NC4now · 15/06/2017 19:03

Lovely weekend in London at around six weeks. It was one of the most romantic times of my life. Smile

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 15/06/2017 19:05

7 weeks in we went away.
He says that's when he knew I was the one!!
Barf!!

KanyesLunchbox · 15/06/2017 19:14

Fifth date for us, a weekend in Paris that my boss was bribing rewarding me with. Together nearly 14 years now Smile

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