Boyfriend called me a 'bi**h'

[emmad1980]

Ok my boyf and I split a few weeks back. We met up and went back to his. We were on his sofa kissing etc! And he says.. cringe! "You di*y b**h".. how would u feel? Hes said it once before too..it felt edp cringe this time as we hadnt seen each other for a while due to split and we had just got back to his and only om sofa! ...seemed imapropriate! It makes me cringe but some couples talk like that?

What other couples do is irrelevant. If you don't like it, then tell him and he shouldn't do it.

Was that his version of talking dirty?

What's the diy part about??

Does he know you don't like it? Why did you split up?

My ExP did something similar but a worse name.
Little did I know he was already living out his porn addicted fantasies with the OW.
That's the last time we had sex!
But... each to their own.
Some people like a bit of dirty talk.

If it's inappropriate to you, it is inappropriate full stop. It doesn't matter what anyone elses opinion is. Tell him, if you still see a future with him. Given the previous split, I wouldn't bother.

Yes they do, and there's nothing wrong with that. If YOU don't like it, tell him.

Shoxfordian we split over several issues.. other comments hes made .. telling my young son jokingly mummys lazy.. jokingly and him just being generally arrogant telling me hes a 'catch' and naking me feel like i should feel lucky to be with him.
Twice jokingly called me a greedy bit*h for eating last sweet/ chips... a few other irritations too!

Ok, your last post - LEAVE HIM.

He's pretty vile. You have a child. You want your son to turn around at 14 and call you a lazy bitch and treat his own girlfriends like shit because he's had an offensive misogynist as a role model? Then stay.

Seriously, he is just a boyfriend. Ditch him now and find someone nicer, better, KINDER.

An ex used to say that to me if he was getting carried away, I was fine with it, but if you don't like your boyfriend doing it, tell him.

If it's not your cup of tea tell him

I remember your other thread.

The question you've asked will get loads of different responses. How do you feel about him saying that? Obviously his idea at dirty talk, but some people aren't into that at all.

Oh... I remember your other thread. He's vile.

OMG it's you!!
WTF are you still with this dick-head?
Is he cock gold plated and diamond encrusted!???
DUMP HIM
DUMP HIM
DUMP HIM
DUMP HIM

We've all already told you this.
Why are continuing to flog this dead horse is absolutely beyond me!
Pick your self-esteem up off of the floor and walk away.

I remember your other (v recent) thread as well.

And you are still with this person because...

Did you not take anything away from that thread you had on this character?.

Awww how sweet, he's def a keeper 💜

Ffs. You possibly deserve each other.

Thing is, if you split up with him, what will you do instead of coming on here making threads about the latest drama?

Why are you still with him?! After your previous thread I'm aghast you've gone back to him! He has few if any redeeming features from what you say. Are you so afraid of being single you'll put up with someone who makes you cringe and who calls you out as lazy to your own DS?!

Really OP get a grip. I'm not sure what you're looking for from this new thread but I'll bow out now. Good luck - I have a feeling you'll need it.

Why did you go back?

I thought you were dumping him.

The answers to this: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2952249-Arrogant-boyfriend-says-comments-to-my-5-year-old-which-I-dont-like-am-I-sensitive were more one sided than an opinion poll in North Korea. I can't see anything changing any time soon.

Are you very young OP?

My ex husband called me this. He was always joking apparently. Except he wasn't of course.

I read parts of your other thread but didn't post. He sounds awful, as well as really patronising and annoying in your other thread. My only thought when I read it is that one day your DC will repeat the crap he spouts.

Had you dumped him? And then now have you gone back on it? To me that he calls you a b**ch immediately after you've made up shows more contempt than anything else. If that's the context I'd think it was more contempt than "dirty talk". I would think he doesn't even like me much.

Thx anstrantia. Thats really helpful..the contempt thing crossed my mind but i wasnt sure ivwas over reacting hence the post to get opinions. We hadnt seen each other 2 weeks as spkit so to say that an hr into the evening seemed inapropriate and insulting and i agree.. some contempt given circumstances.