Please Explain This Message To Me (Online Dating)

[ToeInTheWaterSlowly]

I have recently started Online Dating. My profile is short and has nice attractive fun photos. There is a joke about enjoying procrastination. It is an unobjectionable profile.

I got this first message from a man (no previous contact):

"As if women aren't loony enough with their spaghetti wired brains and being congenitally mercurial, you have added more layers of fruit loop to the mix - Extraordinary!!!

[Something rude about my Username]

So you procrastinate whilst thinking of proscrastination? The thief of time -what a waste!

You sound a barrel of laughs and trying to find a bloke to match will be as useless as trying to find the Grail or Lord Lucan!!!

Give it up!!!"

Why would someone bother to type all this out and send it to a stranger if that was their view? Why?

I mean I fully understand that people have individual tastes which is fine - if you aren't interested, then move along. Why go out of your way to be nasty and hurtful?

It can't be "negging" because it is too unpleasant and not in the negging style. It's just pointless abuse. I'm obv not going to reply but why do it? No one would respond to that would they?

I know it's a random stranger on the internet but it has really upset me for some reason. It has really got to me. .

I've learnt something too!

OP take a break from OLD and look after yourself.

OP, PPs are right... he's got nothing going for him and is desperately trying to get a response, knowing you're unlikely to reply under normal circumstances.
I got rejected OLD once by a man who said he wouldn't date me because I had a picture with a horse, and horsey women are high maintenance it's a strange world on there but some diamonds lurking!
(The negging guy is Neil Strauss and the book is called "the Game", worth reading for a laugh and an insight into some men's brains, it's surreal)

The thing about the blokes who send those kind of messages is that they rarely get responses and dates.
I've had a good few of these (often out of the blue). The first few upset me but not any more, not once I realised they've actually already had their comeuppance and no reply of mine could be sharper than the experience they're already living.
They're not going to find love, sex or a girlfriend or whatever it is they think they're after.
Every crappy message they send acts like a filter that stops them getting dates, and they're too stupid to realise it.
Block and move on (and report if the app you're on allows it).
Fortunately there are also some lovely men online. Far better to spend your time thinking about them

Every time you get a rude response to a polite 'thanks but no' message, that's a bullet dodged!

Check out Bye, Felipe. There are so many dickheads out there -it's really not you.

(He looks like an ugly version of Richard O'Brien - remember that 100% bald guy who used to present the crystal maze. I would never be interested in someone that unattractive

Which is why he feels the need to send messages like that, attempting to debase you, in order to make himself feel better.

And the poster who said it's probably not a one-off from him - correct, that sort of behaviour never is.

Any sort of response will validate him, ignore.

Im afraid there are a lot of people on the net who really get off on being offensive ... it's like all the pent up frustration inside, it can come out when they couldnt get away with it in real life. Or even more simply and less complicated, some people are really are adolescents and like being mean. Even when they're 40. They are not people you want a relationship with!

It has absolutely -nothing- to do with you. You could be anyone. You are anyone, to him. I guarentee you he sends this sort of message 20 times a day. He could be drunk / stoned, too.

Ignore ignore ignore. He probably looked at your pictures, is quite attracted to you but knows your way out of his league. Instead of moving along, he's decided to be a troll in an attempt to get your (negative) attention.

A 21 year old I work with did something similar recently and I overheard him boasting about it. He came across a profile of a woman that he fancied, but she said she was only interested in men with blonde hair, blue eyes athletic build and minimum 6ft tall. The guy I work with doesn't meet any if this criteria so he decided to send her a "troll" email telling her she was a Nazi shrew because of her preferences ..I had a go at him and told him that what he's doing is harassment, but he tried to twist it around that being as I'm old (not in my 20's), I didn't get that trolling is acceptable. I was so angry I wanted to do him some physical harm, lucky for him I'm a student nurse and not prepared to jeopardise my career over his idiotic comments.

Ignore him. I have 3 theories:

1. This is someone you know, maybe an ex trying to rain on your parade.
2. This could be a jealous bitter woman troll. Could be a man too I guess, but it could be a woman with a fake profile.
3. Just a sad keyboard warrior - this is the case no matter which of the above might also apply!

Either way, you got his or her attention!

I once had a guy message me to tell me I looked like a whale (I hadn't messaged him
)
Checked his profile and he had a daughter. I sent him a reply basically asking how he would feel if someone judged his daughter on her looks, if some guy went out of his way to upset his precious daughter just to make themselves feel better.

But I carrier on OP. because he's he's a Dick and i knew he was acting out some of his own crap.
I met DH on POF. Moved in at 4 months, engaged at 6months, married at 18 months. 4 years down the line I'm on the sofa with my leg on DH whilst the toddler sleeps upstairs x

I would definitely not respond. Any response would validate him and he is seeking a response so don't bother.

When I was online dating, I received a message from a guy I didn't recognise or know. Turned out he remembered me from a singles night I attended a year previously. He them claimed I was arrogant and full of myself (clearly because I did not pay attention to him). I was disturbed at howhe kept a grudge a full year later eventhougj I hadn't even spoken to him!

I reported him several times but the moderators did nothing.

Three months later on the same site I met the one and just had our first anniversary!

Is that negging? He just sounds unhinged to me! Who approaches strangers like that? He sounds like some bloke in the street who randomly talks shite at you and you back away in horror/pity. Jesus. Don't take any notice at all! Online dating brings out the weirdos.