He's ended it, I've blocked his number....now I feel so sad 😥

[Brandysnaps200]

You might remember my last thread about my FWB blowing hot and cold and I was getting upset when he hardly text...well now he's ended it.

Said he didn't want this anymore due to the fact that I'm going through a divorce and it's all too complex for him, even though he's known about my situation for the last 6 months.

So, i blocked his number.

I feel so, so sad as I was developing feelings for him. But deep down I know it's the right thing because it upset me on days he hardly spoke as well.

Hand hold please

It's hard. But he was a fwb and you were developing feelings so better it's ended now.

it is hard Op, but you are doing the right thing blocking him, your heart will mend. Just be kind to yourself.

God I could really cry right now.

Feel like I've been dumped by a boyfriend it hurts that much.

Youve done the right thing. Fwb is not for you.

Have a good cry, you were attached to him, even if you knew he would never give you what you need.

We can attach to all sorts of losers, given the right circumstances...it takes a little time and then you can look back and shake your head, free of the emotional fog.

You did the right thing

Hey Op,
I didn't read your other thread but I've had a similar thing going on with my fwb. Hot n Cold, ignores me sometimes etc. I ended things with him and blocked him, the hurt was there as I feel like even though I ended it with him he wasn't even arsed, he was just like yeah do what you need to to. So I still felt the rejection. Do you think what your experiencing is more the rejection then it is him? How often did you see each other?

If I could give any advice from my situation, it would be delete his number too. I ended up caving in when I was drunk and unblocking my fwb, how embarrassing. Then I messaged, and now..we're talking again and he's back to being cold...don't be an idiot like me.

Blueshoess, I've deleted his number because I knew that I would text as well. When he ended it I told him he would never hear from me again, followed by a "take care" then blocked his number, but I forgot to block him on watsapp so he sent me a take care reply on there, then I blocked him on whatsapp just as he was on line, bet he wasn't expecting to be blocked.

We didn't see each other that often as he was always "busy" I do believe he had a gf even though he denied it.

I do think I'm more hurt at the rejection and the fact he didn't seem that bothered.

He sounds similar to my fwb. I bet the blocking will sting his ego for a moment but he'll probably be looking out for the next shag. Has it put you off future fwb/are you going to do some dating? I've found dating is a good distraction but also doing some reason around attachment theories has been useful for self-reflection. I think the rejection is painful, but for some reason I seem to be drawn to men who will ultimately reject me/cold/emotionally unavailable. Adult attachment theories have been a useful reading tool to reflect on relationships.
Chin up love, you pulled that plaster good!

Just take it day by day op. Life is too short to settle for someone who doesn't give you the attention you deserve. Give yourself lots of nice treats 👠👛🍰🍷 and be thankful you are out of it.

Hand hold and sympathy to you op. I am in exactly the same situation, on off, hot cold fwb ended today following the revelation that he's dating someone else 'properly'. I'm devastated and don't know why she is better than me, but determined this is the last time he gets to mess me around, all routes of contact have been deleted/blocked. But I will miss him like crazy. Can't really talk to anyone in rl as no one expects the ending of a fwb to have much of an impact. Life is just shit sometimes.

Sending hugs...i think the same will be happening for me over next few days.. bf blowing hot then cold.. now mainly cold and has resorted to sending me a grand total of one text per day...and havent seen him in over a week ..i too feel hurt and rejected..its horrible.. xxx

Orange and user. Hugs and sympathy to you both too. Aren't men twats!!

At least I woke up this morning feeling positive and like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders knowing that I'm no longer going to be sitting around wondering if he's going to talk to me today!

Although I'm sure tonight when I'm sat all on my own after the DC have gone to bed, I will start to feel sad again.

Thanks Brandy - I'm feeling ok today as busy at work. Like you I think I'm in for a miserable evening although not sure that anything us more miserable than sitting looking at a phone waiting for a text!

for user

my only advice is don't enter into another FWB agreement as ultimately it leads to unhappiness for a lot of women.

Big hugs OP. Know exactly how you feel - only difference for me is that he has blocked/deleted me, which makes me feel all manners of hurt and sadness.

You've done the right thing.

Stay strong and do lots of things to distract yourself from dwelling on the situation.

Yes Brandysnaps i agree ... some not very nice men about !! And hope your ok Orangewasp, theres nothing worse than waiting for the phone to ring or ping with a message!! Im in that position now, as i called and gave in Yesterday after hearing nothing for 24 hours, and i know that BF is having a depressive relapse so wanted to check he was ok !! Yes he was .. very down but ok, said he was going to call !!! No call last night and no contact at all today !! Says it all really !!! Feel quite sad 😣

Thanks user - hope you are okay , I'm just feeling flat and miserable...and stupid for ever getting into the situation I did.

Ditto orangewasp I have heard nothing in two days even after reaching out to him. I'm gutted to be fair. Thought this one seemed very genuine!! No wonder us women have issues trusting men!!! Xxx💕

Hope everyone is ok, and yay we made it through the weekend.....

I felt so tearful over the weekend, whenever anyone asked if I was ok....that was it ..the flood gates opened....I felt a real plonker....I feel so crap and very emotional at the moment, feel like I'm never going to meet anyone I'm compatible with !!
I keep being told I try too hard being on dating sites, but for me its the only way of ever being able to meet a man. All my mates are loved up and want to spend time with their guys, and I work in a female dominated profession, so I'm buggared !!!

Stay strong all of you xx

Fwb doesn't sound like it comes with any benefits for women!

Oh User, you will get there, but it is hard.

I had a moment of weakness and retrieved his number from my phone bill and unblocked him. I didn't ring or text. but yesterday I noticed a missed call from him, it can't have rung for long as I didn't hear it. Another one of his games I think, let it ring long enough to register, then hang up, nothing else from him.

So annoyed with myself for unblocking him as I was starting to get him out of my head, but now he's well and truly back!

He probably rang your number to see if he was still blocked! BLOCK HIM. And make a list of reasons why you blocked him in the first place so that you can read it whenever you have a wobble.