He's ended it, I've blocked his number....now I feel so sad 😥

[Brandysnaps200]

You might remember my last thread about my FWB blowing hot and cold and I was getting upset when he hardly text...well now he's ended it.

Said he didn't want this anymore due to the fact that I'm going through a divorce and it's all too complex for him, even though he's known about my situation for the last 6 months.

So, i blocked his number.

I feel so, so sad as I was developing feelings for him. But deep down I know it's the right thing because it upset me on days he hardly spoke as well.

Hand hold please

Hi all

Sorry you had a crap weekend User, I was very up and down - I'm trying to keep occupied but if I need a blub I'm just going with it. I'm also in a female dominated profession and (even worse) well into middle age - my chances of meeting someone are pretty much nil - I think this makes it all the harder to let go.
Don't beat yourself up for unblocking Brandy - you didn't respond to that missed call which is great, you should be pleased with yourself for that.
I've cheered myself up tonight by writing myself a list of his bad points (admittedly some are very petty), it feels like if he's in my head anyway I should try and find a way to channel that to my advantage, doing guided meditations from Youtube is also helping a teeny bit.

Ok, not sure what to make of this? So the other day he rang my number...today I get a message on FB.

He's not on FB because of his job, but today I get a "hello" from a guy called Tom (rhymes with his name) on FB. Now this Tom has no friends, nothing on his timeline and no pics, so basically looks like an account that's just been opened. Do you think it's him, or just a bit of a coincidence?

He has done this before where he's ended it then come crawling back.

OP you're way over invested this, it was FWB, way too much emotional drama here.

I used to get random messages from men on FB all the time, until I made it clear how old I am . I think this is just a coincidence, I mean why wouldn't he just use his own name and actually say something in the message?
If you believe it could be him, he sounds like a right drama seeker. Ended it, then rang you and sending odd FB messages? Weird as fuck.
You're better off without.

I'm really not convinced it was a coincidence. I reckon he didn't use his real name because he knows I would block him. It doesn't look like an active account.

Yes he was a bit of a drama seeker.

I feel your pain! I've had the exact same thing with a FWB we were together over 18 months messages everyday meeting up 1-2 per week but always blowing very hot and cold never knowing where I was. I eventually called his bluff and said I wasn't standing for it he then finished it. I was totally devestated and still am to some degree but it's definitely more about the rejection. It's been 3 months now and I still think of him most days! I've deleted his number straight away and about 6 weeks ago he unfriended me on FB after I posted something I knew would hurt his feelings I knew he'd unfriend me but to be honest it was a relief as seeing his posts constantly was too much. A few days ago he replied to a memory of mine on Facebook I haven't done anything about it but I felt physically sick with nerves and since then I've been contemplating contacting him but I'm not going to. I'm going to stay strong there was a reason I was never happy and that's because he was a dick!

ELR, it's so difficult isn't it? Even though they were just a FWB, us women develop feelings but stay strong.

Well whoever this Tom is, he sent my a friend request on FB a couple of hours ago. I accepted as I was intrigued and just as I thought, complete empty profile and I am his only friend. I wrote on his timeline to ask if it was him, no reply yet.

I know brandy I did developed feelings and so did he but he was much better at keeping them at bay most of the time anyway occasionally he would be worse then me and as long as I didn't say anything he would be fine but the moment I mentioned anything he would blow hot and cold saying I had bewitched him!
The Facebook thing does seem very odd if it is him he probably wo t reply for ages and keep you guessing. It's just a control thing these type of men can't help themselves. Keep strong we can post on here for support!

Brandy come on! You were doing so well. Don't let him pick you up again for amusement. He didn't care before and he still doesn't, he just likes the power he has over you. Delete him from everything. And properly get rid of his number. There's no way forward to better things while he's got his claws in your back..

Just found myself in the same boat about 3 hours ago. Feeling really cr*p. I got totally emotionally involved, even though I KNEW he didn't want more. It wasn't as if the sex was that good. We just clicked on so many other levels. It had been going on since January. We messaged most days, and we even went away on holiday for a week at the start of May and I really thought he might actually want more. Half of me is angry with myself for being so stupid. The other half of me can't stop crying. Tell me I will get over this.

Just don't get this at all. If its a FWB relationship then that's what it is. Why would you do this and hope for a proper relationship? You have been kidding your selves.
Obviously you are delusional that this is what it was and now the truth hurts. Hold out for more next time.

I'm in exactly the same situation, albeit I had thought we were more than FWB. Have been seeing him for 6 months and although we hadn't had a proper conversation about the nature of our relationship, I just thought it was all progressing and going in the right direction. He's just stopped texting/calling. The last whatsapp I sent him is still unread although I can see he's been on line. I'm going to send one more as we've had such a lovely time together and have been such good friends but I am terrified that he will just ignore it. I actually feel like my heart is broken, will I ever get over this? Sympathies to all those that are going through the same thing. How can we more forward?